We are All Naked People

 

What does our clothing say about us and what are we hiding?
What does our clothing say about us and what are we hiding?

In the past year, I can’t begin to tell you how many emails I’ve received from people concerned about their appearance on a nude beach. They honestly don’t believe anyone would want to see them naked.

That’s not why we go to a nude beach. You go because of how you feel when you’re free of clothing and exposed to the sun, the surf and your spouse. It’s one of the most incredible feelings I’ve ever felt and you can’t really experience it unless you’ve stripped down and let the sun warm your entire body. It has nothing to do with how you look.

Neither my wife or I are “10s.”  To be honest, to me my wife is a 20, but she would tell you that her hips are too big, her breasts too small and after nursing two boys, her nipples are too long. I would tell you she’s perfect. Me, I’d like to lose a few pounds, put on some muscle and of course, be a little bigger down there. But after more than 40 years, what you see is what you get.

We all hide behind masks. Think about it. Clothing or a bathing suit mask us from others. Just like Halloween, we mask who we really are for something else. In five minutes, we learn a lot about people simply be seeing what they wear.

Recently I found a website that captures this thought beautifully. I’d like to share it with you now. It’s a website project called, Naked People.  I love their words on the topic:

“Clothing is our second skin. It disguises, reveals- it can reflect our innermost being or conceal it. Through one’s clothing, he or she is able to exhibit his or her profession, social status, or mood. A suit lets us assume the bearer is a banker, office worker, insurance agent… In our society this is a distinguishing characteristic of respectability. But, how often is such an assumption true? Can we absolutely trust this covering? What really is underneath? Could the illusion be destroyed at the discovery of a tattoo, or leave the person as inscrutable as before? Here we have the opportunity to see the differences in perception between a person dressed and undressed.”

As you can see, clothing really does hide us. When you’re without your mask, you often meet the most wonderful people because they aren’t hiding anything either.

My wife and I have a game we play similar to this website. We play it when we go to a clothing optional beach like Haulover in Miami. We watch couples coming onto the beach and look at what they are wearing. We try to guess if they are conservative or liberal, if they are restrained or a little wild? We guess if they will or won’t get naked? We guess if he or she will get naked first. We guess if they have tattoos. We guess if they have piercings.

Sounds a little immature doesn’t it? You’re right. It is. But I can honestly tell you that I’ve learned a lot through this simple game. Clothing is very deceiving. We all judge people by what they wear and immediately make assumptions about who they are and what they will do on a clothing optional beach.

The one thing we’ve learned is there is nothing consistent about this game. More than once, I’ve bet my wife about a modest couple coming down to the beach and said there is no way she will go more than topless. Later I was shocked to find that she not only shed all of her clothing, but had piercings all over her body and very large tattoos. Same with guy who appears hip and cool when he walks onto the beach, but starts sweating the moment his spouse takes off her top. You can tell he isn’t getting naked, no how, no way.

What was your first experience on a nude beach or clothing optional resort? Were you surprised by what you felt when your clothing mask came off? I would love to hear your thoughts. Remember, regardless of what clothing we wear, we are all naked people.

 

Ready, Set, Strip… Planning a Naked Couples Vacation to St. Martin

 

Orient Beach is often the first place many couples experience a nude beach.
Orient Beach is often the first place many couples experience a nude beach.

We finally decided to leave the kids, snow and freezing temperatures of the U.S. Midwest to strip down to our bare bottoms to enjoy the sun and surf. After checking out several of the properties I mentioned in an our earlier wish list, I found out we’re a bit late. The properties we wanted to visit in Key West, Tulum and Jamaica were booked already for March.

I was really disappointed when I realized that Club Orient on St. Martin was booked too and then I realized I was missing the big picture. Yes, it’s great to go to a nude resort where you only have to pack carry on luggage because you really don’t wear much (anything) during the week. However, St. Martin is perfect for the couple looking to explore a nude vacation without any pressure. All of St. Martin’s beaches are topless and many have clothing optional sections too. It’s a win-win for the couple who isn’t ready to book a week at Hidden Beach Resort in Mexico or Caliente Caribe Resort in the Dominican Republic.

I’m a big believer that planning is one of the best parts of a trip. We went to St. Martin nearly 15 years ago and things have changed a lot since then. For one, the Internet making travel planning so much easier. We can research hotels, prices and options quickly and easily. Here are several nude/clothing optional B&Bs and resorts on St. Martin we would have liked to have tried. Unfortunately, our travel schedule and their availability didn’t match:

Club Fantastico — This is a new option on St. Martin and from what I can tell, it looks wonderful. Many of the same features as Club Orient, except not on the beach. We would love to check this property out one day. If you’ve been there, tell us what you think.

Naturist’s Getaway, Oyster Pond, French St. Martin – I loved this place from the moment I read about it. Why? Location, location, location. I can’t image a better experience than four studio apartments around a pool. Beautiful landscaping and privacy and only 10 minutes drive from Orient Bay too. I traded several emails with the owners. Lovely people. Unfortunately they were booked when we wanted to travel. Next time…

St. Martin is the ultimate beach lovers’ vacation. With more than 40 different beaches and all a bit different, there is something to explore every day depending on what you’re looking for. Romantic location, great bars and restaurants, beautiful rocky cliffs, snorkeling, a striking sunrise or sunset, St. Martin’s beaches have it all. 

We decided to stay at a hotel on Orient Beach so that we can walk to the nude section (by Club Orient) and enjoy the benefits of our room being very close for lunch, shower or a nap. Our plan is to be centered at Orient Beach but to make day trips to other favorites. Which beaches you ask? Here are some beach we hit before that we will absolutely go to again:

Cupecoy Beach – I LOVE THIS BEACH. It has beautiful rock formations all over the beach and offers privacy and a chance to explore caves. The water can be a bit rough here, but it’s perfect for body surfing. It also has the best BBQ on the island. Visiting Cupecoy Beach is a most.

Happy Bay – I love the idea of finding my own little beach to discover and Happy Bay is it. It doesn’t have any place to get food or drink, so you’ll want to bring a lunch but imagine a romantic beach with few others nearby. It’s technically not a nude beach, but is often used by couples to lay out nude or skinny dip. Just be aware that you may need to put on clothes if families are nearby.

Orient Beach – Yes, you’ve heard about it already but in addition to being a perfect nude beach, Orient has the best people watching of any beach you’ll ever see. And this leads to one of my favorite activities: Watching the cruisers (couples visiting St. Martin for the day from a cruise ship) walk onto Orient Beach and then decide, should we or shouldn’t we strip down and enjoy the beach naked? Not surprisingly, Orient Beach is often the first place many couples try a nude beach experience. My wife and I like to take bets on who will take their bathing suite off first, him or her. Add beach chairs, umbrellas, lots of food options, beverages and hotels and you have the perfect, first time nude beach experience.

Maho Bay – Alright this is not a nude beach and to be honest, you’d have to be pretty daring to try it here. So why did this beach make my list? This is the beach you see from the plane when you land. It’s an awesome experience watching a 747 land just barely over your head. The Sunset Beach Bar is the perfect place to watch too.

As you can see, we have a lot of places we want to visit on St. Martin. We’re looking forward to going there in a few weeks. Been there before? Interested in going? Let us know your thoughts.