Is a Naked Body or a Partially Clothed Body More Sexual?

SI Cover Model Hannah Davis causing controversy

SI Cover Model Hannah Davis causing controversy

Meet Model Hannah Davis on the cover of the 2015 Sports Illustrated Swim Suit Edition. What do you think? Many are calling this cover photo “pornographic” and “too sexual.” This leads to an interesting question about which is more explicit: a man or woman wearing nothing at all or wearing very little?

After coming back from a week at Orient Beach in St. Maarten, I can honestly say I’ve been around hundreds of naked and partially clothed men and women. I’ll admit when my wife and I first started going to clothing optional beaches and resorts, I would have said that a naked body was more explicit than one covered by swim trunks or bikini. While it wasn’t a physical turn on to see my wife naked, it certainly was mentally. She looked then and still does today stunning with nothing on.

To me this is actually one of the many misconceptions about nude beaches and nudist resorts. Is the human body beautiful? Yes, it can be. Have I seen attractive women and men on a nude beach? Of course, but to be honest, the only times I’ve ever caught myself staring at someone is when they were wearing very little. As I saw at Orient Beach, the only time a couple attracted any attention from others was when they were clothed and often the barely there thongs and bikinis were far more explicit than a naked body.

I do understand that many women are more comfortable wearing a thong or small bikini. My wife included. When she was walking to the beach bar or bathroom, she wore a thong bikini that I bought for her specifically for this trip. Did she attract attention? I loved it but I have no idea if anyone else “noticed” her more in her thong than when she was naked.

This is a topic that is often discussed. So what do you think? This is just my opinion.  Here are several comments/suggestions that have been sent to me. Great thoughts and observations:

From A Naturist’s Lens @ http://skycladtherapy.wordpress.com
I agree with you that nearly nude is far more sexual than nude, especially in the context that one is aware of cloth touching intimately, highlighting that intimacy. Nudity is less so for both the person who would wear next to nothing and the person who sees next to nothing framing the zones of sexuality. Thanks for bringing up the topic. :)

From jochanaan1 @ http://jochanaan.wordpress.com
Context and body language are everything. You don’t expect sex in a nudist gathering or even on a nude beach; but you expect at least sensuality in a “strip club” or certain other events. And when we see nudity or near-nudity where we don’t expect it, as on the street, in a workplace, or on church, we don’t know what to expect, so our cultural conditioning starts up and we think sexual thoughts–at least for a moment. But, as many of us have found, what was conditioned in can be conditioned out. :)

From naturalian @ http://naturalian.wordpress.com

To me, having on very small garments like thongs or micro bikinis is far more suggestive than being completely naked – it concentrates the eye on the parts that are (just) concealed! That’s why I hate clothed beaches, all those scaps of different cloured cloth detract from the naturalness of the beach!

From Bruce @ http://www.sffb.com
As TA Wyner once said, “When bathing suits get tinier, the eye naturally goes straight to what is still covered. When people are naked, nakedness becomes natural, and eyes go straight to eyes.” The SI cover photo is clearly NOT pornographic. There is nothing sexual happening. The vagina and clitoris are still covered. It’s nothing but a big tease for guys to entice them to buy the mag. Sexy? Yes. Porn? Hell no.

Great points. What do you think?

Orient Beach Observations on St. Maarten/St. Martin

The World Famous Orient Beach by Club Orient, St. Maarten

The World Famous Orient Beach by Club Orient, St. Maarten

My wife and I had a wonderful week on Orient Beach in St. Maarten/St. Martin the last week of February. While the beach is actually several named beaches in one and nearly 2 1/2 miles long, it features perhaps the best known nude/clothing optional beach in the World: Orient Beach by Club Orient.

Orient Beach really isn’t a bare as much as you dare beach… I’d say about 95% of the beach goers on it are naked and enjoying every minute of it, including my wife and me. If you haven’t been, we’d highly recommend putting it on your Nakation Bucket List.

Orient Beach from a rocky point.

Orient Beach from a rocky point.

Knowing that many couples have their first nude beach experience on Orient Beach, I was interested to see the first timers reactions. I collected these tips after watching several first time couples experiences. Some I’m sure will be back again soon. Others perhaps never. I recommend reading on if you haven’t been but are planning a trip to a nude beach with your spouse or are planning on visiting Orient Beach soon.

  • You can’t embarrass a nudist. It was hysterical watching couples (mainly from cruise ships docked in St. Maarten for the day) walk the entire Orient Beach shoreline but somehow never look up at the naked people laying out on chairs, walking by them or skinny dipping in the water. You could tell they were too embarrassed to make eye contact, which gets to my first point. Remember, time on a nude beach is shared time between you and your spouse. Don’t worry about any one else or what they’re doing, because honestly, they don’t care. They’re enjoying the beach, sun and sand in the buff. You can too. Which gets to my next very important point….
  • The only time any one will notice you on a nude beach is when your clothes are on. It’s funny to say but clothing really does identify and define us. You really do notice bikinis and other swimwear but take it all off and you really just look like part of the nude beach crowd. You don’t stand out. A younger couple laid out their towels near my wife and me. They were close enough that I could hear them. They had obviously talked about coming to Orient Beach already because with a smile on their faces, they counted down and together stripped off their bathing suits. I had to laugh ten minutes later when she asked him to go for a swim. He picked up his swimsuit bottoms and then said, “Why bother. No one cares anyways.” Exactly… and off they ran to go skinny dipping.
  • Take a dip and do what you’re comfortable with for the first time. Another couple was walking down the beach in their bathing suits. They got a ways down the beach, sat down on an empty beach chair and shed their suits. Then they went skinny dipping for awhile. They had a blast. When they were done, they dried off and put their suits back on. I never saw them again, but judging by the smiles on their faces when they left, they will remember it for a long time.
  • Take your time. I watched several couples nervously pick a spot on the beach, layout on a beach chair and then slowly over the next few hours remove bikini tops, swimsuit trunks and bikini bottoms. You could see them getting comfortable and enjoying their time together.  Most, but not all were naked by the end of the day. We saw another couple walking in a large group in the morning (all with swimsuits on) and then come back later in the day. She had taken off her top this time. The next time we saw them they had taken everything off and were laying out and enjoying the sun. Remember, there is no rush. It should be a comfortable experience for the two of you.
  • Take a picture and remember it. While there are signs everywhere on Orient Beach reminding us to not take a picture, I honestly recommend otherwise. Take a picture of your spouse or ask someone to take a picture of you both. Your time in the sun will be over too quickly and a memory or picture lasts much longer. Now I’m not telling you to take a picture of everyone on the beach. Absolutely not! I take a picture of my wife naked every time we’re together on a beach. I’m not sending it to friends or sharing it with anyone else. Days, weeks, months and even years later it always brings a smile to my face when I see that picture and think about the memory of being there together.
  • It’s okay to just keep on walking. The majority of the people who ventured down to Orient Beach when we were there wore their swimsuits. They came to see the nude beach and apparently decided it wasn’t for them. That’s okay. It can be very intimidating the first time. We saw one couple make their way down the beach and find a nice spot in the sun. She started to take off her bikini top and her boyfriend/husband stopped her.  With a smile on his face, he said, “I can’t do this. I want to but I just can’t.” She stopped what she was doing and the two walked off hand-in-hand. Honestly, that was some of the best communications I’ve seen in many years.
  • Let no one judge you. So we’ve all had that nightmare of what happens if someone I know sees me naked on the beach? I saw it happen to another couple and later to us.  For the other couple they were walking together on the beach with the waves breaking on their feet. She was topless.  Another completely clothed couple recognized them from their cruise and the woman said, “Wow look at your topless girl.”  I was interested to see if she would cover up. She didn’t. She wasn’t embarrassed. She replied, “I’ve always wanted to do this and I don’t think I’ll be able to get the smile off his face.” Wow, what a great response. We saw them several more times that day and she was topless all day long and yes, I do believe her husband is still smiling now. Which brings us to our experience….
  • What happens on the beach, stays on the beach. So while standing in line for drinks at the Club Orient Beach Bar, I started talking with another couple. I was naked, he was naked and his wife was topless and wearing only a small thong. Eventually we started talking about where we were from and were surprised to find that we live less than five miles from one another. We even have mutual friends.  They were a great couple and we had a blast talking with them later during our vacation. There is an unwritten rule that who you see on the beach, remains nameless when you return home. I’m not sure if we’ll ever see them again, but I’m sure they’ll keep their little secret just as we will too.

I would love to go back to Orient Beach again very soon but it will probably be a while. If you’re planning a trip to St. Maarten/St. Martin, I encourage you to visit and have your own nude beach experience with your spouse. It will be time well spent together.

We are All Naked People

 

What does our clothing say about us and what are we hiding?

What does our clothing say about us and what are we hiding?

In the past year, I can’t begin to tell you how many emails I’ve received from people concerned about their appearance on a nude beach. They honestly don’t believe anyone would want to see them naked.

That’s not why we go to a nude beach. You go because of how you feel when you’re free of clothing and exposed to the sun, the surf and your spouse. It’s one of the most incredible feelings I’ve ever felt and you can’t really experience it unless you’ve stripped down and let the sun warm your entire body. It has nothing to do with how you look.

Neither my wife or I are “10s.”  To be honest, to me my wife is a 20, but she would tell you that her hips are too big, her breasts too small and after nursing two boys, her nipples are too long. I would tell you she’s perfect. Me, I’d like to lose a few pounds, put on some muscle and of course, be a little bigger down there. But after more than 40 years, what you see is what you get.

We all hide behind masks. Think about it. Clothing or a bathing suit mask us from others. Just like Halloween, we mask who we really are for something else. In five minutes, we learn a lot about people simply be seeing what they wear.

Recently I found a website that captures this thought beautifully. I’d like to share it with you now. It’s a website project called, Naked People.  I love their words on the topic:

“Clothing is our second skin. It disguises, reveals- it can reflect our innermost being or conceal it. Through one’s clothing, he or she is able to exhibit his or her profession, social status, or mood. A suit lets us assume the bearer is a banker, office worker, insurance agent… In our society this is a distinguishing characteristic of respectability. But, how often is such an assumption true? Can we absolutely trust this covering? What really is underneath? Could the illusion be destroyed at the discovery of a tattoo, or leave the person as inscrutable as before? Here we have the opportunity to see the differences in perception between a person dressed and undressed.”

As you can see, clothing really does hide us. When you’re without your mask, you often meet the most wonderful people because they aren’t hiding anything either.

My wife and I have a game we play similar to this website. We play it when we go to a clothing optional beach like Haulover in Miami. We watch couples coming onto the beach and look at what they are wearing. We try to guess if they are conservative or liberal, if they are restrained or a little wild? We guess if they will or won’t get naked? We guess if he or she will get naked first. We guess if they have tattoos. We guess if they have piercings.

Sounds a little immature doesn’t it? You’re right. It is. But I can honestly tell you that I’ve learned a lot through this simple game. Clothing is very deceiving. We all judge people by what they wear and immediately make assumptions about who they are and what they will do on a clothing optional beach.

The one thing we’ve learned is there is nothing consistent about this game. More than once, I’ve bet my wife about a modest couple coming down to the beach and said there is no way she will go more than topless. Later I was shocked to find that she not only shed all of her clothing, but had piercings all over her body and very large tattoos. Same with guy who appears hip and cool when he walks onto the beach, but starts sweating the moment his spouse takes off her top. You can tell he isn’t getting naked, no how, no way.

What was your first experience on a nude beach or clothing optional resort? Were you surprised by what you felt when your clothing mask came off? I would love to hear your thoughts. Remember, regardless of what clothing we wear, we are all naked people.

 

Ready, Set, Strip… Planning a Naked Couples Vacation to St. Martin

 

Orient Beach is often the first place many couples experience a nude beach.

Orient Beach is often the first place many couples experience a nude beach.

We finally decided to leave the kids, snow and freezing temperatures of the U.S. Midwest to strip down to our bare bottoms to enjoy the sun and surf. After checking out several of the properties I mentioned in an our earlier wish list, I found out we’re a bit late. The properties we wanted to visit in Key West, Tulum and Jamaica were booked already for March.

I was really disappointed when I realized that Club Orient on St. Martin was booked too and then I realized I was missing the big picture. Yes, it’s great to go to a nude resort where you only have to pack carry on luggage because you really don’t wear much (anything) during the week. However, St. Martin is perfect for the couple looking to explore a nude vacation without any pressure. All of St. Martin’s beaches are topless and many have clothing optional sections too. It’s a win-win for the couple who isn’t ready to book a week at Hidden Beach Resort in Mexico or Caliente Caribe Resort in the Dominican Republic.

I’m a big believer that planning is one of the best parts of a trip. We went to St. Martin nearly 15 years ago and things have changed a lot since then. For one, the Internet making travel planning so much easier. We can research hotels, prices and options quickly and easily. Here are several nude/clothing optional B&Bs and resorts on St. Martin we would have liked to have tried. Unfortunately, our travel schedule and their availability didn’t match:

Club Fantastico — This is a new option on St. Martin and from what I can tell, it looks wonderful. Many of the same features as Club Orient, except not on the beach. We would love to check this property out one day. If you’ve been there, tell us what you think.

Naturist’s Getaway, Oyster Pond, French St. Martin – I loved this place from the moment I read about it. Why? Location, location, location. I can’t image a better experience than four studio apartments around a pool. Beautiful landscaping and privacy and only 10 minutes drive from Orient Bay too. I traded several emails with the owners. Lovely people. Unfortunately they were booked when we wanted to travel. Next time…

St. Martin is the ultimate beach lovers’ vacation. With more than 40 different beaches and all a bit different, there is something to explore every day depending on what you’re looking for. Romantic location, great bars and restaurants, beautiful rocky cliffs, snorkeling, a striking sunrise or sunset, St. Martin’s beaches have it all. 

We decided to stay at a hotel on Orient Beach so that we can walk to the nude section (by Club Orient) and enjoy the benefits of our room being very close for lunch, shower or a nap. Our plan is to be centered at Orient Beach but to make day trips to other favorites. Which beaches you ask? Here are some beach we hit before that we will absolutely go to again:

Cupecoy Beach - I LOVE THIS BEACH. It has beautiful rock formations all over the beach and offers privacy and a chance to explore caves. The water can be a bit rough here, but it’s perfect for body surfing. It also has the best BBQ on the island. Visiting Cupecoy Beach is a most.

Happy Bay – I love the idea of finding my own little beach to discover and Happy Bay is it. It doesn’t have any place to get food or drink, so you’ll want to bring a lunch but imagine a romantic beach with few others nearby. It’s technically not a nude beach, but is often used by couples to lay out nude or skinny dip. Just be aware that you may need to put on clothes if families are nearby.

Orient Beach - Yes, you’ve heard about it already but in addition to being a perfect nude beach, Orient has the best people watching of any beach you’ll ever see. And this leads to one of my favorite activities: Watching the cruisers (couples visiting St. Martin for the day from a cruise ship) walk onto Orient Beach and then decide, should we or shouldn’t we strip down and enjoy the beach naked? Not surprisingly, Orient Beach is often the first place many couples try a nude beach experience. My wife and I like to take bets on who will take their bathing suite off first, him or her. Add beach chairs, umbrellas, lots of food options, beverages and hotels and you have the perfect, first time nude beach experience.

Maho Bay – Alright this is not a nude beach and to be honest, you’d have to be pretty daring to try it here. So why did this beach make my list? This is the beach you see from the plane when you land. It’s an awesome experience watching a 747 land just barely over your head. The Sunset Beach Bar is the perfect place to watch too.

As you can see, we have a lot of places we want to visit on St. Martin. We’re looking forward to going there in a few weeks. Been there before? Interested in going? Let us know your thoughts.

My Naked Travel List of Resorts and Beaches for Winter 2015

Club Orient is on the famous Orient Beach in St. Martin.

Club Orient is on the famous Orient Beach in St. Martin.

It’s been another beautiful weekend here in the Midwest. Bright sunshine and stunning fall colors. While the sights outside are amazing, my thoughts are already turning to January when it will be cold and miserable outside. I have no problems with snow, but I do like to escape the cold and find the sunshine to feel warm again.

So last night I started doing searches for nude and clothing optional resorts, beaches and locations I’d love to visit in a few months when the temperatures here hit the 20s and snow is the forecast for the week. This is my list of places my wife and I would like to visit when we’re ready to escape the frozen North.

Note that there are so many wonderful places to go now with many resorts catering to the nude or clothing optional lifestyle. My wife and I aren’t everyday nudists. We have found that taking a trip to a resort or beach sans clothing is our idea of the perfect vacation. If you have been to any of these resorts or locations, please join the conversation and share your thoughts with us. I would love to hear more about what you liked, didn’t or what you would add to the list. So, here is My Naked Travel List for the Winter 2015 (in no specific order):

 

Who says you can't be naked at night? Mak Nuk Village in Tulum has a wonderful pool area

Who says you can’t be naked at night? Mak Nuk Village in Tulum has a wonderful pool area

Mak Nuk Village Clothing Optional Resort Tulum (Mexico) – This one has been on our list for some time. As we’ve mentioned before, my wife and I are big fans of Hidden Beach Resort. It is a truly first class experience that unfortunately comes with a first class price tag too. It’s very expensive. It also has an awful beach. Perfect for wading but that’s about it. Which is why I so want to visit Mak Nuk Village. No it doesn’t have a beach but they will take you to the nude beaches of Tulum, which are wonderful. They also offer great accommodations, pool, lazy river, hot tub and on-site dining. The pictures look great. Need I say more? Mak Nuk is not all inclusive but you pay for your beverages and dinners when you depart so no need to keep money on your naked body. I’m honestly ready to go now. Check out their website and let me know what you think.

Could a naked vacation be any more romantic than in a setting like  Villa Dolce Vida in Tulum?

Could a naked vacation be any more romantic than in a setting like Villa Dolce Vida in Tulum?

Villa Dolce Vita (also in Tulum, Mexico)- Years ago my wife and I stayed at a small beach front property in Tulum. We had miles of white sand beaches to ourselves and played, swam and slept naked in the sun all day long. It was wonderful and I believe Villa Dolce Vita could be our new favorite getaway. It’s small, personal, romantic, clothing optional and right on the beach. After looking at these pictures, I can almost feel the sun on my back. Secluded and romanic. This is why you go to a B&B like this one. It has two guest rooms. This could be a perfect setting for first timers who want to bare as much as they dare without an audience. Not an all inclusive but looks like the perfect setting for a nude vacation. Have you been there before?

 

Firefly Beach Cottages in Negril, Jamaica.

Firefly Beach Cottages in Negril, Jamaica.

Firefly Beach Cottages (Negril, Jamaica) - We’ve never gone to Jamaica but I’ve been checking out this place online for years. It’s on Negril’s famous seven-mile beach but it is away from the crowds. It’s everything you’re looking for in an island vacation. Relaxed, slow and romantic. It offers personalized services and accommodations. I like that it’s small which could be perfect for the first time, naked vacationing couple but central to the beach and other restaurants. Looks like our kind of place. The reviews look great too.

Club Orient with its distinctive yellow umbrellas

Club Orient with its distinctive yellow umbrellas

Club Orient (St. Martin) – This was the first nude resort in the Caribbean and many would still say the best. We visited St. Martin’s Orient Beach nearly 15 years ago and loved it. Not sure which was more fun; laying out and soaking up the sun in the buff or watching all of the Cruisers (people visiting from cruise ships) go through the shock and awe of walking the beach with naked people and then relaxing and taking off their swimsuits and enjoying the beach with the rest of us. Truth be told, every beach on St. Martin is topless and most are clothing optional too. I would have a great time visiting a different beach every day and enjoying the terrific French restaurants each night, but there is something to be said for never having to put on clothing from the moment you wake up till you go to bed at night. Club Orient has a restaurant, nice accommodations and a perfect location (although I’d still recommend getting a car). It is very popular with Europeans and families. We would love to finally say that we’ve stayed at Club O.

What could be more relaxing than this? Caliente Caribe Resort, Dominican Republic

What could be more relaxing than this? Caliente Caribe Resort, Dominican Republic

Caliente Resort Caribe, Dominican Republic – I love the look of this all inclusive. Caliente has a sister property in Tampa Bay that my wife and I would have seen in March if the weather had been more cooperative. The pictures of this resort make it look like paradise and a party too. This resort is only adults and offers relaxation and romance with fun too. The setting couldn’t be nicer too with beaches, hot tub, pool, etc. This place looks like it is more of a party than some of the others on my list, but when the winter winds blow, I’m ready to get out and boogie.

The Pilot House Guest House is one of many clothing optional hotels in Key West.

The Pilot House Guest House is one of many clothing optional hotels in Key West.

Pilot House Guest House, Key West – My wife and I have always loved visiting Key West. It was in fact the first place I ever saw a woman topless on a beach, but that was when I was still in elementary school on a Spring Break trip with my parents. We have been going to Key West for visits over the years and have fallen in love with the restaurants, sunset celebrations, people and the guest houses we’ve stayed at. Ironically, I only recently realized that there were clothing optional guest houses in Key West. Any of these guest houses look great, but I found many great reviews about the Pilot House Guest House. They offer a virtual tour of the pool and rooms. Location in old town Key West couldn’t be better.

Desert Sun Resort, Palm Springs – Our very first nude vacation was as the Terra Cotta Inn in Palm Springs. It was a wonderful first time for us with great people in a great setting. I would go back to the Terra Cotta Inn too except this blog is about places I haven’t been to but would like to visit soon.

What happens when you put a nude resort in the middle of downtown Palm Springs? You have the only nude resort with a bridge to cross from one side of the resort over a city street to the other side of the resort. The Desert Sun Resort is all about comfort and relaxation. It’s not small from what I’ve heard but not too big either. With a great nude pool and social experience and with the great restaurants of Palm Springs nearby, how can you go wrong?  We’d love to check it out too.  Sorry, no pictures. All pictures were copyrighted on the website and not for download.

So that’s my Naked Travel List for Winter 2015. I hope we get to one of these properties this winter. There is nothing better than a relaxing nude vacation with your spouse, especially when it’s cold and snowy at home. Have you been to any of these properties? Please share your thoughts.

Also all picture in this blog were used from each property’s website. No money was given or asked for to be included in this blog post. The list and thoughts are my own.

 

Grin and Bare It: Your First Trip to a Nudist Camp

 

There are a lot of misconceptions about what a nudist camp is really like, especially for someone going there for the first time. It’s not a colony. Those are for ants and bees. It’s not the Friday night, swinging singles bar scene either. It’s not a “meet” market. It’s not where people go to show off their naked body in front of others or where people go to check out and stare at naked people.  Honestly, a nudist camp or club is a place where people go to be naked. They go there to enjoy everyday camp activities naked. It’s that simple.

As you know, this blog is about answering questions couples have about social nudity and about what to expect in a nude or clothing optional setting. Often that first happens on vacation at a beach or resort in the Caribbean or some other warm vacation spot.  A nudist camp (although community is probably a better term) is a great place to try the nude experience too.

I believe one reason most people try nude recreation on vacation is because no one knows them. For that reason, I’m assuming most couples don’t try a nudist camp first because they are worried they will see someone they know. Believe it or not, privacy is a big part of the experience. My wife and I have been to four nudist camps throughout the Midwest in the past 20 years and we have never seen someone we knew. We’ll talk more about that later, but first let’s talk about what happens at a nudist camp.

Think back to when you were younger and went away to summer camp. You went camping and had campfires. You went swimming and boating. You had picnics and bar-b-q’s. You played games like basketball, tennis and volleyball. You probably took walks in the woods or went fishing.

Now imagine everything I just said, except this time, you’re not wearing any clothing and neither is anyone else around you. That’s the nudist camp experience. Everyone is have fun outdoor and not wearing anything. No one is embarrassed. The people here are nudists and they are doing this because they want to live part of their lives without clothes on, without people gawking or staring; without people making unwanted sexual advances; and without being judged by other who are not accepting of this decision.

So why is a nudist camp a good first experience for a couple considering recreational nudity? It’s about as safe an environment as you will ever be. It’s social but it’s private too. The first time my wife and I went to a nudist camp, we were surprised about how relaxing it was. Yes, we were anxious because everyone was naked and that did take a little getting used to, but our nudity didn’t stand out. We looked like everyone else. Think about it. Warm all over. No worries about offending anyone. No need to explain yourself to someone who doesn’t approve, and no fear of anyone taking pictures or hitting on you or your spouse.

You’ve seen your spouse naked probably thousands of times.  Now how often have you both been completely naked outside without a fear of being seen? Have you ever been naked with them outside while hiking in the woods, swimming, playing a sport or eating dinner? It’s different and while yes, it sounds odd at first, it’s very natural and not a sexual experience.

Here are some tips that you must know to make sure it’s a good experience for you and your spouse. First of all, you need to have this conversation before you ever go to a nudist camp.  Nudist camps are nude. They are usually coops owned by members who in some cases, live there. They are not clothing optional. They are nude unless the weather calls for clothing to stay warm or dry.  This isn’t like a clothing optional beach or resort where you bear as much as you dare.  Talk to your spouse prior to going to make sure you’re comfortable with the fact you will have to take off your clothing. Wear a swimsuit. Wear a thong. No entry.

Call the camp you would like to visit. Let them know you are coming out for the first time. Many camps offer a free visit for first timers. Ask them about what you should bring and get specific directions.  Many have privacy gates where you will need to be buzzed in. Know before you go. Also ask about any fees and expectations.

Bring your driver’s license or state issued ID. They will perform a background check on you when you enter. This is for their protection and for you when you arrive. Most nudist camps are family oriented. There are children there and privacy and protection for minors is the most important. No exceptions.

Most camps do not accept single men. Couples and single woman only. There is a lot of debate about this but it seems to be important to keep the balance of men and women equal. One more reason why this is a great activity for you and your spouse. You really can’t do it alone if you’re a guy.

Bring a towel to sit on. Cleanliness is very important so bring a towel at all times so you have something to sit on.  Also, bring sun protection. When parts of your body are exposed to the sun for the first time, it can leave an awful burn if you’re not protected.

Absolutely no cameras or cell phones because they all have cameras now. While you might want to take a picture of your spouse to remember the occasion, most clubs do not allow photography of any kind, unless you’re a member. Remember, you’re there for privacy too.

Remember you are being watched while you’re there. Privacy is very important and each club watches to make sure visitors are acting as adults. Often you will have to wear a special sticker or arm band. Nudist clubs are there to enjoy being nude. Not for staring at nude men and women. Go there for you and your spouse. Not to meet anyone or to find a date. It is not a sexual experience and absolutely no inappropriate comments or sexual touching is accepted.  This is one more reason why this is a positive and safe environment to try social nudity with your spouse.

 

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Don’t get too personal. No one talks about where they live, work or even gives their last name. Please introduce yourself and be ready for others to say hello too. We have met many wonderful people at nudist clubs but there is always a level of privacy that is respected and maintained.

Perhaps the most difficult part of the experience is where to look when you’re talking to another naked person.  Don’t laugh but one of my funniest memories was on our honeymoon in Tahiti. Another couple from Italy had sat down beside my wife and I on the beach. While our spouses fell asleep next to us in the sun, this woman and I talked about the US and Italy. We were having a great conversation. During our discussion and while I had my eyes closed, she took off her bikini top.  My wife’s bikini top was still on at that point. When I opened my eyes and realized she was topless, I didn’t know what to do. Should I look away? Look around her? I finally made a point of talking right at her and staring right at her eyes. My eyes were glued to her eyes. To this day, I can’t tell you anything about her breast because I never once looked straight at them. I was incredibly nervous.

When you’re talking to another naked person (man or woman) look them straight in the eyes and talk. Don’t stare. Don’t point and certainly don’t say anything about their private parts. That’s rude. Before long, you won’t even notice they’re naked.

My wife and I visit a local nudist camp several times each summer. It’s a great getaway from our kids and jobs where we can enjoy time together to sit by the pool, swim and enjoy a picnic lunch together. As much as we’d like to go to some super, all-inclusive in Mexico or the Caribbean, we simply don’t have the time or money. Our trips to the nudist camp are special because it’s only 30 minutes away and it’s just us.

For the right couple, a nudist camp or club can be a great first step into social nudity. In the heat of the summer, I can’t think of a better place to cool off and enjoy the weather. Interested in trying it out? Better do it quickly. Many clubs in the Eastern US only allow guests between Memorial Day and Labor Day. After that, clubs are often closed and available just for members.

Before you go, do some research online. Today there is a lot of information about each club, what to expect, fees and rules. I even found a review site for Nudist clubs and resorts.

Do you have any questions or concerns? Let us know. We’re here to answer your questions and share with you our experiences so you and your spouse have a better experience.  Enjoy.

Run on Over to White Thorn Lodge for the Third Annual State Line Streak 5K Naked Run

 

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Run Naked!

So did you ever have the urge to streak naked across campus in college? Or learn firsthand if you actually do run faster wearing only running shoes and socks? I never had the nerve or the chance.. until now. The State Line Streak is a competitive 5K trail run sponsored by the White Thorn Lodge, a private family nudist club near the state line of Pennsylvania and Ohio. The event is now in its third year and this year has a non-competitive, 5K Some Colors Run trail run with paint.

So far we’ve focused our blog on being a resource for couples who want to experience a nude beach, resort, or club. We will be publishing a blog on what to expect if you’re considering visiting a nudist club or camp this summer, but a chance to run naked through the forest, that’s too good to pass up!

Social nudity should be an enriching and fun experience for you and your spouse. That’s been a main theme of our blog since we started so why not a naked run? I’m sure the good people at White Thorn Lodge came up with this event to attract younger 20- and 30-somethings to experience social nudity. Let’s be honest, if you can run naked for 5K, you’ll be comfortable nude by the time you finish and what could be better than enjoying lunch, drinks and a pool. Personally I think it’s a great idea to welcome couples (and individuals) to a nude club to experience it for themselves.

I’m sure you’ve got questions. I know I do. There are men’s and women’s categories based on six age groups. The course is a combination of stone roads and trails (and I’m assuming hilly too). They recommend road cross trainer shoes and while all participants must run nude, they do allow women to wear an upper support garment. Here is a review from a first time participant from last year’s race. From our experience, she nailed it when she said it takes about five minutes to get comfortable.

My wife and I visited White Thorn Lodge a few years ago. It’s very nice club located in Western Pennsylvania and is an hour or so from Pittsburgh, Cleveland, Erie, Canton and Wheeling. It’s big with a very nice new pool and lots and lots of volleyball courts. Say what you will about nudist sports, but they do like to play a lot of volleyball and White Thorn has been hosting the Naked Volleyball SuperBowl each September since 1971. With a very nice lodge, campground and other sports and recreation amenities, White Thorn is a first class organization and well worth a visit.

To learn more about the State Line Streak or Some Colors Run, please read their flyer with contact information or sign up for the July 12, 2014 race. The Pittsburgh Post Gazette ran a very good story about White Thorn Lodge last year and what a family, nudist club is all about. For me, I’m going to begin training for the run (with my shorts and shirt on for now). My wife plans to cheer me on as I cross off another item from my bucket list. Let the training begin!