Nude Beaches Around the World: Do You Dare to go Bare? from Petergreenberg.com

Every Beach Needs to Be Clothing Optional and Here’s Why…

Yes this post is my opinion as to why every beach should have a clothing optional section but my reasons for this are probably not what you would think. Follow me and see if you agree. /Cover photo from PeterGreenberg.com

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There is nothing real about the Kardashians yet they are role models to many young women and men.

Nothing about the Kardashian family and their “reality” is real. Yet they are undeniably the hottest thing in Hollywood and are role models (dear God did I just write that?) to countless fans including many young women. Their fashion, their product endorsements and their bodies sell.

While I disagree with a lot about what the Kardashian sisters represent, it’s their bodies that I have the most trouble with and why I wrote this post. I know you’re asking, “What do the Kardashians have to do with promoting access to clothing optional/nude beaches across the U.S.?”

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2007 photo of the girls. Source Instagram and People magazine.

Simply put, the Kardashian girls’ bodies are fake. They are fiction, while the bodies on a clothing optional beach are real. In this time when women and men struggle with body image and being positive about themselves, why would we ever promote the Kardashians or any other Hollywood stars or models as  having normal bodies.

Google Kardashian and plastic surgery and you’ll see their bodies are more fiction than fact. The “look” they are creating is focused on body perfection and sex. Ironically two things you should never see on a nude or clothing optional beach. Yet, as a society we promote them as symbols of what is beautiful or sexy in the world today even though their bodies literally come with a price and set a standard that most women will never achieve nor should they try.

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Haulover Beach in Miami on a busy day. There are few places better to enjoy nude recreation than Haulover.

So why should every beach have a clothing optional section? Because on nude/clothing optional beaches you see real bodies. You see people with all types of body types and ages who are perfect in their own special way. Yes, some people have had “work done.” If you thought it was easy to identify fake breasts while clothed, trust me it is even easier on a topless beach. I’m trying not to judge, but my point is that when you spend time on a nude/clothing optional beach you become part of a shared community. By bearing all to everyone, you see quickly that no one is perfect by Kardashian standards, but perfect they are perfect in their own special way.

Yes you will see lots of different looking people. I always tell people to understand what a nude beach is like, go to a mall or other crowded place and watch the next 100 people who pass you by. Now imagine them naked. That’s it. Some people you would find attractive, others not so much, but that’s not the point. They aren’t there for your viewing pleasure. Just like a community, most people are wonderfully average. And when you do see them naked, you’re all equal. That said, you don’t go to a clothing optional beach to see or be seen. You go because of how it makes you feel when you’re there. Writer Emma Sloley captures the sights of a Croatian nudist resort beautifully in her article, Nudist Always Play Volleyball. Give it a read and you’ll see what I mean.

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A couple enjoys nude sunbathing at Haulover Beach State Park, Bal Harbour Florida. photos by Max Hartshorne. From the website: http://www.gonomad.com/1235-haulover-beach-florida-the-ultimate-nude-beach

Perhaps the most important reason why every beach should have a clothing 0ptional section is so that young adults and children can see their bodies are beautiful just the way they are. They don’t need to be ashamed of how skinny or large they are. They don’t need to worry about their breasts or hips being too big or too small. They don’t need to measure their tummies or thighs. Young men don’t need to be concerned about being too skinny or too weak. They need to see all bodies as beautiful and not imperfect. We need to de-sexualize a woman’s breast and hips and a man’s penis and see them for what they are… skin, bone and muscle. We need to provide women with equal rights to decide when and where they want to shed their clothing and at the very least enjoy the same rights men do.

We all need to see the badges we wear on our bodies that come with age. These are badges of honor. I am always amazed by what I see when I’m on a nude beach. I see the scars from life saving surgeries. I see healed wounds from accidents. I see pregnant women glowing from future motherhood in the sun. I see women who have had mastectomies. I see men with large bellies. I see c-section scars and stretch marks. I see amputations. I see the effects of living a long, wonderful life such as wrinkles and sagging butts, boobs and balls, not to mention muscles and skin. I see birthmarks. I see burns. While it might not all be pretty like the Kardashians, it’s real and this is what we all should appreciate and accept.

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Yes every beach should be clothing optional but I agree every beach also needs signs so that those who don’t want to see, can turnaround. Photo Source: Miami Herald

Equally important is that clothing optional beaches need to be everywhere so that they are easy to find, easy to access and easy to enjoy. Today in the U.S., clothing optional beaches, nudist clubs and nude vacations spots carry an unfair stigma. They are not dens of odd people doing immoral things that children should be kept from. Instead, they are filled with people spending time with their loved ones and friends while enjoying the freedom to be nude and to celebrate the sun without being judged or threatened.

Perhaps most important to why all beaches should have a clothing optional section is access to information. The internet today provides pictures (clothed or naked) of the Kardashians at the click of a button. Anyone can see these images, yet we can’t all go to a clothing optional beach or place and see what real people looks like.

So why am I writing this post today? First off because of women like Chelsea Covington (@gingerbread) and her efforts to bring topless freedom to all women through her actions #freethenipple and her blog: Breasts are healthy. She has been arrested for her belief but continues to change opinions and promote discussion about topless freedom for all women.

Second, because of nudist advocates like Felicity Jones and her efforts to educate not only for topfreedom but positive body image and body acceptance for all. She speaks to young adults and demonstrates all of the positives of today’s nudist/naturism messages. Her blog is youngnaturistamerica.

Third, because of a DM I received from a twitter follower with nice comments about our blog while pointing out how extremely negative body image has become. He mentioned a friend who said she’d love to try nude recreation but was concerned about the look of her labia. Really? What society has done to women and their bodies is unacceptable. Furthermore, it sickens me that their our doctors who will profit from this surgery.

Finally, I’m selfish. I live in the Midwest US by the Great Lakes (Lake Erie) and there are no public, legal, approved clothing optional beaches on the U.S. side of the Great Lakes anywhere. We are an hour from Cleveland and there is no where we can go nude in public on Lake Erie without the risk of breaking the law. My wife and I instead go to Haulover Beach in Miami or Black’s Beach in San Diego. We love it, but wow, what a long way to go to enjoy the sunshine.

Alright, I’m off my soapbox. But before I leave you, I read a beautiful quote from the blog Meandering Naturist about naturism in France. Read and see if you agree.

“France will always be the place where naturism genuinely made sense to me – in a way that I had dreamt it should be – and for that, I am forever grateful to the people who are able to say “a breast is a breast, a penis is a penis, and it appears everyone sports a remarkably similar pair of buttocks!”  Viva la France.

That’s my opinion. What’s yours?

 

 

 

 

No better way to get naked than soaking in a hot spring from the Tumbler feed: The Spirit of Soaking

New Mexico Hot Springs Perfect for First-Time Couples to Spring into Social Nudity

 

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What could be better than soaking naked in the San Antonio Hot Springs in New Mexico?

So what’s the perfect way to relax and literally soak in Mother Nature and all of her beauty? There is no better place to take it all off and try nude recreation than a hot spring. It is the perfect low/no stress environment to see what getting naked in nature really feels like for you and your significant other.

Earlier this summer we published an updated list of activities to do naked with your spouse or significant other. These were from readers of our first blog post on the topic who made suggestions of activities they would recommend. One of those suggestions was soaking in a wilderness hot spring. I added it to my list and after visiting one in New Mexico, I would recommend it to anyone. It’s like having your own hot tub but so much better.

 

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Hot clear water washing over my feet. Does it get any better?

I was visiting Santa Fe on business and had an extra day. Rather than stay in town, which is tempting because it’s a really great city to explore, I decided to see what hikes were recommended in the mountains. I quickly discovered that New Mexico is known for many amazing hot springs including several with fantastically scenic hikes to reach them and most of them clothing optional (you can be naked, topless or in your swimming suit… the choice is your’s).

The hot springs I read about really were all different. Some were very remote and hard to reach, while others were right off main roads and very crowded. Some had been purchased and turned into spas, while others were “trashed” by tourists and locals. Here is a list I found very helpful.

The one hot springs I kept reading about that appealed to me the most was the San Antonio Hot Springs. It features an amazingly scenic and beautiful five-mile hike by a creek up a canyon. The hike goes over a variety of landscapes but you’re climbing with every step up the canyon. The views are amazing.

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There is no better way to experience nature and be free than taking it all off and soaking in a hot spring

I did the hike in early October and it was warm. I did it in late afternoon/early evening because I wanted to sit out and watch the stars fill the sky (bring a flashlight). The hike will take between 1.5-2.5 hours or however long it will take you to walk five miles up hill. Bring water. There is no water available on the hike. The hike alone was the highlight of my day, but that’s when I got to the hot springs.

The hike ends after passing an abandoned barn and cabin with four beautiful pools of water cascading down a hillside overlooking the creek and cliffs of the canyon. A hot spring fills the top pool and the water flows from one to the next. The top pool is 105 F and the temperature falls with each pool.

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Four soaking pools to enjoy – all at different temperatures – at the San Antonio Hot Springs

I was alone when I got to the springs. I took off my clothing and jumped into the top pool and enjoyed the soak while looking out at the cliffs, stream and the forest all around me. The water was crystal clear and actually a bit too warm for me. After 15 minutes, I had to take a seat on the rocks surrounding the pool to cool off. Sitting in the hot springs with stunning natural surrounding all around is an amazing feeling. The water is unbelievably comfortable and the four pools have sand bottoms so you can sit in them without the pain of a rock pinching your bottom.

I would call the San Antonio hot springs a little gem hidden in the New Mexico wilderness. You’ve really got to want to be there because it’s not an easy hike to it. From what I saw online, the springs can be very crowded. The area around the hot springs  was a little beat up from the summer hiking season, but I found very little trash. The hot spring pools themselves were wonderfully maintained.

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Looking up at the San Antonio Hot Springs.

I stayed and soaked for nearly two hours, watching the sunset give way to the stars. It was an unbelievable night. My only complaints were that my wife wasn’t with me to enjoy it and that I was the only one there. The best part of social nudity is just that… social. I have yet to meet another person or couple nude in a hot tub that I didn’t enjoy talking with and sharing stories. While I was there for me, I would have enjoyed talking to other people too.

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Hot 105F degree water coming out of the mountain and into the pools at San Antonio Hot Springs in New Mexico

Sound like something you might want to try? I’m sure you have questions.

First off, there is nothing more wonderful than getting naked with your significant other on a beach, pool or in this case, hot springs. While you’ll be anxious at first, most people quickly realize that it really feels great. You’ll feel “exposed” and uncomfortable for a few minutes. Once the, “Are we crazy, what are we doing feeling wears off,” you’ll feel very comfortable and actually will get a rush from it. Sound cliche I know, but you’ll feel free, open and once the anxiety wears off, really good. And yes, because every guy asks about this, it isn’t uncommon to get an erection the first time you watch your significant other get naked. It will pass. Simply put a towel over your penis till it calms down or jump in the water and relaxi. This too shall pass. We recommend either going early or late to avoid other people. Just be prepared with a flashlight, etc.

As a side note, while we wrote this blog post for couples, if you’re a single woman who wants to try a nude hot spring, Christine Garvin’s article is excellent: “How to Approach Clothing Optional Hot Springs Around the World.” Give it a read.

Second, while I’m sure most couples who have never tried social nudity would want to be by themselves to start, if another couple or group of people are there already and naked, don’t worry about it. Just take your time and do what feels right. From our experiences most guys are all for getting naked and skinny dipping. It might take a little time for your wife/girlfriend to get comfortable. Step into the pool and relax. Once she feels comfortable (and she probably will but on her time frame) let her decide if she wants to take off her bikini top or drop her bathing suit completely. Be encouraging but not demanding. Let it be a shared experience and I promise you, it will be relaxing and fun for both of you.

 

So what do you do if there are other people there and they aren’t naked? Well, the decision is yours. Nudity is legal on U.S. Park Service lands so you are breaking no laws. Do what you’re comfortable with. We’ve been doing this for years and I have no problem taking my clothing off in a place where it is legal and recognized as clothing optional. That said, if someone was there with children, I would ask how much longer they were going to be there to see if we could wait them out or tell them that we intend on using the hot springs naked and discussing where we want to be and where they are. Again, the choice is yours. You’re in control.

I can tell you from what we’ve seen if there are other couples there with their bathing suits on, usually the other couples are waiting for someone to break the “nude” ice. This is what I mean. Read this Yelp Review of the San Antonio Hot Springs from Anthony J, “The three pools are out in the open on a hill side. If you are lucky like we were we saw some nudist in the springs. They were quick to get out and put on bathing suits when they saw us, but when we got to the pools they were very nice. We all had some really good conversation. After an hour of talking we all decided to go skinny dipping. The women were mid 30s and my friends and I were early 20s. That was the first time I’ve ever gone skinny dipping, and it was very enjoyable.” This happens a lot. Nudity is a big deal until you experience it and find it’s not a big deal at all.

We had something similar happen the first time we went to a very small, clothing optional beach in St. Maartin. There were four other younger 20/30 something aged couples, all in their bathing suits and bikinis on the beach when we arrived. As soon as we laid out our towels, I dropped my bathing suit and went skinny dipping in the ocean. By the time I got back to my wife, she had already taken her bikini top off and five minutes later put her bikini bottoms in her bag for safe keeping. By the time I had gotten out of the ocean for my swim, half the guys had already taken off their bathing suits and one woman her top. Within 30 minutes of my wife taking off her bikini and the two of us jumping in the ocean, all four couples were naked. By the time we left the beach, the four other couples were playing in the waves and walking down the beach in the buff like they had done it all their lives. The beach actually became pretty crowded and everyone was naked. This is a long example, but I’m surprised at how often all it takes is just one couple to get naked and everyone joins in.

Finally, and this is really important, so wouldn’t this hot spring be a wonderful place for romance, especially since you’re both naked already?

Nudity does not equal sex. All nudist will tell you one of the first surprises of social nudity is that while it can be romantic for you and your spouse, it isn’t a sexually charged environment. There is a time and place for everything and intimate touching and sex should be done in private, NOT in the open. If you’re lucky enough to have your own private pool or hot tub, go at it. But if you’re in a public place (beach, resort or in this case hot spring), it is a big no-no! Don’t ruin it for others (including families) that may surprise you by jumping in the hot spring while the two of you are getting hot. Sorry, it’s not acceptable.

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Sun setting over the San Antonio Hot Springs

So are you interested in trying a hot spring for you and your significant other? There are clothing optional hot springs in Arizona, California, Colorado, New Mexico, Nevada, Oregon to name a few locations. There are a lot of reviews and locations.  Some have been commercialized and you can rent your own private pool to be naked in or simply away from others. For the San Antonio Hot Springs, the address is: Forest Rd 376 (4 Miles N of FR 126) Jemez Springs, NM 87025. There is no cell phone service in this area.

More importantly, since I’m new to hot springs, if you have been to one and would recommend it as a great first time place for others to try social nudity, please send us a review and your thoughts on why it was a great first time experience for you both.

As anyone who has read our blog before knows, my wife and I are big supporters of enjoying nude vacations and getaways. For more than 20 years, we’ve found our clothing optional trips and adventures to be wonderful shared experiences for the two of us. To a couple who has never tried it before, it’s not what you would initially expect. It should be fun, exciting, freeing and relaxing. It is romantic too, but not sexual.

We started our blog nearly three years ago to encourage, answer questions and provide honest information and support to other couples who are interested in taking a nakation or trading their bathing suits for their birthday suits on an upcoming trip. We’ve found our trips to be very relaxing, romantic and freeing. It really has been a wonderful experience for us and potentially for you too.

Everyday our blog receives visits from 300-500 people interested in learning more. We invite and encourage you to ask questions. There are wonderful beaches to visit, clothing optional resorts to enjoy and completely nude vacations to discover. Please read our blog and let us know your questions and more importantly, share where you would recommend other couples go and what it was like for you.

Enjoy the soak!

Naked time is the best quality time of all. Image from danilek.tumblr.com per Favim.com.

Trading your Bathing Suit for Your Birthday Suit: 10 more things to do with your spouse naked this summer.

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Naked time is the best quality time of all. Image from danilek.tumblr.com per Favim.com.

A year ago I wrote about spending all day with my wife naked. We didn’t hang out in our home or in our bedroom or bathroom. We didn’t even sit out on our deck or backyard. Instead we went to a local nudist club and spent all day, outside and enjoyed the sun, the hot summer air, and the other guests. We didn’t wear a thing.  It was much needed together time but it wasn’t sexual. It was fun. It was relaxing. It was energizing. It was wonderful.

Our blog captures our time together and what we like to do naked. This post was by far the most read and most popular I’ve ever written. I shared ten things we enjoy doing together naked when we’re at a nudist club, nude resort or clothing optional beach. I told you what we like to do and asked you to tell us what you like to do naked. If you missed it, click here to give it a read.

Many of you read our thoughts and sent your own. I got to tell you that your ideas were fantastic and my wife and I have added many to our own Naked Bucket List. Before I share these ideas with you, please know the purpose of our blog is to share our experiences so that other couples who are interested in exploring social nudity will know what it’s all about. It’s exciting. It’s fun. It’s sensual but it is not pornographic. As surprising as this might sound to a new-bee nudie, it’s not sexual. There is a time and a place for everything but intimacy or sexual touching is not appropriate in the open at a nudist club, nude resort or beach. That’s not what it’s about.

Being nude with your spouse or special friend is about feeling warm all over and free. I find the first time nude best compared to your first kiss. It’s exhilarating and exciting but you still feel like you might throw up. It’s about sharing time together without holding anything back, including your bathing suit. I could tell you more about why we enjoy being together naked but it’s probably better to share with you what others like to do. So if you’re ever wondering what it would be like or what to do naked here is our new top 10 list of things to do naked with your spouse this summer. Enjoy:

All hands on deck for nude boating & sailing – I told you all last year how much my wife and I enjoyed canoeing naked in Tahiti. Several of you said that sounded great, but we really should try leaving our swimsuits at the dock and riding the waves in a sailboat or motorboat closer to home. And of course dropping anchor and skinny dipping too. I’m on board for this idea.

Nobody puts baby in the corner… especially when she’s dancing naked – You name it, it can be done and enjoyed naked, including dancing. Line dancing? Sure why not. Disco? Okay. Breakdancing? That might leave a mark. Years ago at Hidden Beach Resort my wife and I went to our first nude dance. Even the band was naked. Imagine 35 couples dancing the night away while a Mexican cover band belted out hits from the 80s and 90s in broken English. It was fantastic.

How fast can you run? Now how fast can you run naked? – Sure anyone can compete in a Tough Mudder or Colors Run but do you have what it takes to compete in your Nikes, socks and nothing else? I’m not making this up. Runner’s World even wrote an article about it and I’ve written about White Thorn Lodge’s Naked 5K and Colors Run. Give it a try and remember if you’re not in first, the view never changes.

Nude Day Out with Friends – Okay I never thought this would make our list, but a few weeks ago we went to White Thorn Lodge and met friends there to spend the day in the buff with them. Yes, we met them on Orient Beach on St Maartin and no, none of us were wearing swimsuits then either. We had lunch together. Skinny dipped in the pool. Took a hike. Talked. Laughed. Enjoyed mojitos. Talked some more. We had so much fun we stayed for dinner. Yes, it can be intimidating to think of spending the day naked with friends but when you’ve been out to dinner many times before and enjoyed it, why not? Our friends made a great day even better.

Check out the Heavenly Bodies – No I’m not talking about peeping toms. They suck. I am talking about laying naked under the stars or sitting in a hot tub or pool with your spouse. You’ll see more moons than the one in the sky. Romantic and fun too. We love to do this when we’re visiting a nude resort like Couples Sans Souci. 

How do you stay warm when you’re naked on a cool night? A hot spring of course! Friends of ours love going to nude hot springs in Colorado and California. It sounds awesome and usually has a naked hike to the springs to get there too. Definitely on our list now.

Naked water skiing also known as a power enima. I was surprised when two people suggested this and said it was a blast. I googled it and sure enough, it’s a thing. I’m not one to judge because I’ll try most things once, but the thought of my bare butt (or worse) hitting the water makes me scream in pain just thinking about it. Give it a try and let me know what you think.

When you’re ready to Dive in all the way, try nude snorkeling or scuba diving. This has been on my bucket list for years and I thought I was going to accomplish it when I went to Couples San Souce earlier this year. Unfortunately you can snorkel only on their textile beach, not their nude one. I guess that will wait till next time.

You’ve been served. Naked beach volleyball! Yes, it’s almost cliche to think about nudist and nude volleyball games on the beach or in the pool. I’m not sure why but it is part of the nudist culture. That said, it might be a pickup game in a pool, the semi pro games at Haulover nude beach on the weekends or the Super Bowl of Nude Volleyball each year held at White Thorn Lodge in Western Pennsylvania. Regardless, you’ll have a blast or is it a ball?

So is a nude dog one not wearing a collar? Several people mentioned how much they enjoy taking a walk at a nudist club and bringing their dog with them to walk too. I love walking our dogs but never thought once about bringing them with us to a local club. I would first recommend calling the club to make sure dogs/pets are welcome.  We’ll have to give this one a try.

So here are 10 new ideas to do with your spouse or special friend naked this summer. Let us know if you do any of them and what you think. The next question I usually get is, “Where can my wife and I try some of these activities?” I’ve included links where I can but your best bet is to go to the American Association of Nude Recreation (AANR) website to their club and resort finder app. AANR member clubs and resorts must maintain a high standard to be an accredited club. Not all of these activities will be available at an AANR member club (nude boating or sailing, hot springs?) but most will. I also recommend visiting The Naturist Society (TNS) website for more information about nude recreation.

Better yet tell us what you like to do if we haven’t mentioned it yet. Regardless, remember that social nudity is about you and your partner. It’s fun and always should be. The hardest part is just trying it. Once you’ve gotten over the first “can I do this” hurdle, it’s really easy after that.

 

 

Naked Time is Summer Time: Five Answers to Your Concerns about Getting Naked this Summer

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What’s the most comfortable bathing suit on the beach? No bathing suit!

I’ve always loved summer time, but the older I get the more summer means getting naked and spending time with my wife outdoors. Honestly there is nothing better than feeling the sunshine on your skin and a warm breeze cooling your body. After 45 years, I can honestly say being naked outside on a warm or hot day is the best. Sound like something you and your spouse or special friend might want to try? There is no better time to be naked than summer time.

Our blog is about encouraging couples to try social nudity. For my wife and me, we’ve found it to be a wonderful bonding point. We are not nudist. We live very normal lives in the suburbs. Most days were are getting our children off to school and working long hours at our jobs. We don’t stand around naked in the kitchen or garden in the backyard nude. We’re just like you. Except that we have discovered how wonderful it is to spend time together naked outside. I’m not talking about sexual intimacy. We are not touching each other. That’s not appropriate outside of the privacy of your bedroom. We are just spending time and hanging out with other naked couples who like to do the same thing.

This summer, we invite you to discover the joys of spending time with your spouse or special friend naked because there is no better time to be naked outdoors than when the days are sunny and warm.

So what’s stopping you? Here are five answers to most couples biggest concerns about trying social nudity:

Will we stand Out? Every couple who hasn’t experienced social nudity believes when they are naked everyone will stare at them. The only time you are noticeable at a nude club, resort or beach is when you’re clothed. Once the clothes come off, you look like everyone else… naked.

What if we see someone we know? This was my wife’s biggest concern and one reason we didn’t got to a local nudist club until we were in our mid-30s. Privacy is a big part of nude establishments. It is expected that you will never ask anyone their last name or where they are from. You share only as much information as you would like. While we’ve never run into any friends or even acquaintances while naked, we’ve met several other couples at nudist clubs, beaches and resorts that we’ve become good friends with since meeting. The most important thing to remember if you see someone you know is that they enjoy being naked too. That’s all.

What if we don’t want to be naked around other people? As couples are getting used to social nudity, often they don’t want to be social. That’s okay. This is your time together naked so spend it as you would like to. We’ve seen two types of couples; The ones who want to be social and are playing volleyball in the pool or talking at the bar. They have lot of friends and like to talk. The other group find their own space and relax. Maybe their next to everyone at the pool but just reading books and talking to themselves. Or maybe they’ve found their own space on the beach.

Will someone hit on me or make a romantic or sexual advance? This is a real concern and for us, and it’s never happened. If anyone is making you uncomfortable, tell someone at the club, resort or beach. Nudist clubs, resorts and most beaches have zero tolerance for unwanted sexual advances. When you’re naked, you’re exposed and vulnerable. Nude clubs and resorts do a lot to make sure the environment is safe. Cameras are not allowed. At a nudist club, you will have to give them your driver’s license for a background check. Some nude resorts ask guests sign a code of conduct. I know that it happens but simply telling someone that you’re not interested should be enough.

What if my body doesn’t look good enough to be naked around other people? It’s sad, but this is probably the biggest reason couples don’t try social nudity. In the years since we started this blog, we have received a lot of questions about the “right body” for a nude beach or club. The right body is your body. Your first time nude will be an interesting experience. Yes, there will probably be some good looking people there, but honestly, most people are wonderfully average. No one stands out. Do not be concerned with scars or surgery marks. Do not be concerned about stretch marks or bellies. Do not be concerned about your breasts being too big or too small or one being bigger than the other. Do not be concerned if your penis is too small or too large. Do not be concerned with private tattoos or piercings. Do not be concerned about birthmarks. Do not be concerned if you are completely shaved and without pubic hair or natural or somewhere in between. When you’re naked, you’ll be around some of the most unjudging people ever. Perhaps one of our biggest discoveries was that when you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to be ashamed of or anxious either.

So what other questions do you have? Should you go to a club or a beach? What can we do while we’re there? (check out our blog on what we like to do) What about kids? If you’re going to a club, call ahead. Let them know it’s your first time and ask them what you should expect and what they expect from you. If you’re going to a public beach like Haulover in Miami, Wreck in Vancouver or Black’s in San Diego, read up online to hear where to go and what to bring.

Most of all, enjoy the time together with your spouse. We find our time naked together to be relaxing and recharging. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

Oregon Bath Garden Perfect Intro for Nude Recreation

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Enjoying the bath garden and introduction to social nudity at Chozu Gardens in Ashland, Oregon.
Once in a while, my wife and I get an email from a couple interested in exploring nude recreation. It all started last summer when Mr. A sent us an email after reading several of our blog posts about our nude experiences. He had questions and concerns.
Mr. A and his wife were comfortable being nude at home and when they were alone and he was interested in trying a more social setting but he was most concerned about making sure the experience was a good one for his wife. She was concerned about the people they might meet and making sure it was a safe and relaxing environment and not sexualized in any way. These are honest concerns.
We shared advice with Mr. A and gave him suggestions. I was pleasantly surprised when I received an email from Mr. A this week detailing he and his wife’s first nude experience in a clothing optional setting. Mr. A took the time and effort to find a great place for he and his wife to try social nudity. It was relaxed, fun and a great experience for both of them. Here is Mr. A’s firsthand account and review.
My wife and I were looking for a way to ease into our first clothing optional experience so we decided to visit Chozu Bath & Tea Gardens in Ashland, Oregon. (The Gardens has great reviews. See the TripAdvisor Reviews.) We are very comfortable with nudity around our home and in private settings, but this was our first time in a group setting.
Ashland is a tranquil little town in Southern Oregon that is perfect for a low key and relaxing weekend getaway. Chozu is located a few blocks from downtown Ashland, and we stayed in the small “cottage” that is on the property. The accommodations were great and the gardens are beautiful. Chozu is in a renovated house that contains a small lobby, massage rooms, and a small restaurant. The bath gardens are behind the house and are very private from neighboring homes and buildings.
The Japanese-inspired experience starts in the men’s and women’s locker rooms with a change and shower, then you have your choice of a private soaking pool, large group soaking pool, cold plunge and sauna. The gardens are clothing optional after 6PM. Prior to6PM you are given a “koshimaki” to wear in lie of a bathing suit. The koshimaki is a loose fitting Japanese-style wrap, which allows for a “near nude” experience without actually being completely nude. We quickly learned that regular visitors are often nude when in the water or sauna, regardless of the designated time.
My wife was apprehensive as we began our experience, and my goal was to give her as much grace as possible and let her move at her own pace. After checking in and a stroll around town, she decided to begin the experience in the large group pool rather than one of the private pools. Needless to say, the pools and sauna are very relaxing and we had a great time. She was happy to remove her koshimaki after 6PM. We were surprised that we had the large pool mostly to ourselves the entire weekend, but we were joined by other guests – some wearing their wraps and others happy being nude. We had a conversation with another woman in the sauna, all three of us completely nude and free.
Throughout the weekend we spent plenty of time at the gardens, we each got a massage, but we also went skiing and spent time around the town of Ashland as well.
I thought Chozu was a great way to “get our feet wet” and try something new. Being able to be nude and free feels great and it requires a tremendous amount of personal growth and confidence, both of which we have been trying to foster recently. In the past, I have been embarrassed and ashamed of myself and my body – I’m too pale, too thin, too sensitive. It was a healing experience to be able to nude in context with other people and be completely happy.
My wife thought the experience was a great starting point as well. While there was some initial hesitancy, she quickly became comfortable. It was a safe entry point into a new experience for us, and it was very freeing enjoy our bodies regardless of what others think… and to be honest, no one even notices!
I really appreciate Mr. A sharing he and his wife’s experience. Living in the Midwest, Ashland is not on our radar but we’d love to get there and experience it ourselves. We are always looking for firsthand accounts and trip reports to share with other couples who are interested in experiencing their first nude vacation. Also check out Mr. A’s blog: – http://www.onequestionaway.com/
Enjoying the waves and the beach at Couples San Souci's Au Natural Beach

Jammin Naked in Jamaica: Couples Sans Souci Perfect for First Timers

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Enjoying the waves and the beach at Couples San Souci’s Au Natural Beach

My wife and I have been to nude beaches and resorts all over the United States, Mexico and the Caribbean. Somehow we missed Jamaica… until now. In late December we finally traveled to the Reggae Capital of the World and picked up a Red Stripe and pulled down our swimsuits. We relaxed in the hot sun and swam in the warm ocean. We believe Couples Sans Souci Resort is a perfect place to get naked with your spouse and if you haven’t done it before, it is a great place to try nude recreation for the first time.

I’m not sure why we hadn’t been to Jamaica until now. It’s not that we didn’t discuss it. Firefly Beach Cottages has been on our list for some time, although it has new ownership and I’m not sure if it’s still clothing optional.  I’ve read and heard a lot about Hedonism II, but that’s not our idea of fun. Couples Resorts and specifically the Sans Souci property caught our attention after I began reading in several travel forums that many couples had their first social nudity experience here. My wife and I are not nudist newbies, but our blog is all about encouraging couples who want to try nude recreation so we decided to give it a try.

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Is this romantic or what? Some of the views at Couples San Souci

While this blog isn’t about the total Couples Sans Souci resort experience (go to TripAdvisor if you want to learn more), we will tell you why we thought the Sans Souci resort complements its Au Natural Beach and Pool experience nicely.

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Mineral Pool at Couples San Souci

The resort was carved into the cliffs overlooking the ocean. It is older (more than 50+ years) and has been maintained beautifully. The landscaping, architecture and layout are very romantic. The restaurants, bars and pools all offer an excellent experience and variety. The rooms in the A and B buildings were renovated in 2015 and are very nice. You’re steps from the main beach and restaurants. If we did it again, we would request one of the rooms on the hillside because they are more private, have large balconies and have amazing ocean views. You can also sit and relax in the nude on your balcony without disturbing anyone or attracting any attention. This isn’t possible in the A or B buildings.

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The main beach and A and B Buildings at Couples San Souci

Couples Sans Souci is only for adults and attracts a lot of couples on their honeymoon, anniversary or just much needed time away. Did I mention it is very romantic? It really is and we would have had a great time here even if it didn’t have a nude beach and pool. But it does, which is why we went there.

Before I share our impressions and thoughts, I first want to mention why spending time together as a couple on a nude vacation can be such a rewarding and shared experience. If you’ve read our blog before, you know this but I believe it’s necessary to reinforce these points.

Think about how much time you and your spouse, significant other, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. actually spend together. Now consider how much time you’re together naked. I’m not talking about sexual intimacy either. That’s a different experience which can become more intimate by spending time together nude but is not what happens at a nude beach or pool. There is a time and a place and sexual intimacy or touching is not appropriate outside of your bedroom at Couples Sans Souci.

I’m talking about the time for the two of you to relax and reconnect. It’s about looking at each other and seeing the person you’re in love with as the sun shines down on both of you. It’s a feeling of personal freedom and shared romance because you’re together and totally exposed. You feel a little naughty because you’re outside with other nude couples around you. But you feel warm, relaxed and at peace. To me, my wife is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. As beautiful as she is with her clothes on, she is even more stunning when she is completely naked relaxing in a beach chair, sunbathing, swimming in the pool or walking on the beach with me holding hands. We always have a wonderful experience together on our nude vacations, which is why we share with other interested couples so they know what to expect and what the experience is really like and what it isn’t.

So why do we believe Couples Sans Souci’s Au Natural beach and pool are the perfect place to try the nude experience for the first time? It’s like everything else in Jamaica, it’s laid back, it’s relaxed and it’s, “No problem, man.”

The Au Natural beach and pool is probably about 100 yards in length. There are chairs throughout the beach where you can have your own space to relax with your spouse in the sun or shade. Or if you’re more social, the pool area is fantastic with a hot tub, swim up bar, and restaurant to enjoy. Overall, the nude experience here compares very well with other places we’ve been to and it is a first class setting that is well maintained. It is a safe environment and is perfect for relaxing in the sun, talking with other couples, playing nude volleyball in the pool or just falling asleep in the sun.

So why would we recommend it to couples considering it for their first nude experience? The first time for anything often produces anxiety and fear. Taking off all of your clothing so that your spouse and everyone around you can see you can be a humbling and scary experience the first time you do it. However, the reward is the most relaxing and yet exhilarating feeling ever. Think of what you felt the first time you kissed someone. You’re happy and excited and yet still feel like you’re about to throw up. That’s what I’m talking about.🙂

Here are the reasons we believe it is perfect for first time couples: you have lots of space and can relax and explore at your own pace. This is what I mean and our tips to making this a wonderful experience for both of you:

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Au Natural Beach at Couples San Souci

Get there early. The beach and pool officially open at 9. Get there at 8 or 8:30 and take your place on the beach where you’ll have space to set up and get comfortable. There might be a few other couples there but you’ll probably have much of it to yourself. It’s a much less stressful experience when the beach and pool aren’t filled with people. That will happen later in the day, but you’ll be ready for it.

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View from the Couples San Souci nude beach

Take it off. Take it all off. Don’t delay. Don’t debate. Just take off your swimsuit, lay out your towel, put on your suntan lotion (put it on now while you’re thinking about it; you do NOT want to burn) and get comfortable. It will feel odd at first. That’s fine.

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Looking down the Au Natural Beach at Couples San Souci

Enjoy the moment. You can only have one first time and this is it. You’ll feel a little crazy, but once you realize that no one is staring at you and that the world didn’t end, you’ll realize how good it feels to be warm all over and how wonderful it is to have your spouse at your side. It’s an incredible shared experience. Within 10 to 15 minutes, you’ll find that you’re starting to feel very comfortable and relaxed.

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Waiting for guests to arrive at the Au Natural Pool at Couples San Souci

Take your time. Yes, you’re now naked and showing your body. You’re getting comfortable. As time passes, more couples will come to the beach and pool. You’ll see them find their spots on the beach and you’ll hear them by the pool. You’ll see them take off their suits. You’ll see that everyone is wonderfully average and no one really stand out. It’s funny. Clothing and bathing suits make us stand out from the crowd. Take them off, and we all pretty much look the same. Here’s what I mean.

You’ll notice we come in all shapes and sizes. Some couples have tattoos; some couples have completely shaved their pubic areas while some are completely natural; some couples are pierced; some couples are old and others are younger; some couples are skinny while others are larger; some couples have surgery scars; and some women have fake breasts. You’ll see it all and it’s all okay. Also, don’t feel that you need to fit in. You don’t need to shave your pubic hair and don’t worry if you’re larger or have smaller breasts or a small penis or dramatic surgery scars or birth marks. It really is a body shaming free zone where no one stand out and every one is accepting.

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The beach and Au Natural bar/restaurant area at Couples San Souci

Explore and enjoy your time together. An amazing transformation takes place during your first time nude together. Your nakedness doesn’t matter. You’ll decide to get up and walk the beach together. Maybe jump into the ocean or venture over to the pool. Maybe it’s a quick trip down the beach at first where you pass another couple and exchange, “hello’s.”  You realize although your naked and their naked too, nothing feels odd. It’s strangely natural and feels right. (Never thought you’d say that did you, especially before you tried it?)

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Au Natural Pool and Swim Up Bar at Couples San Souci

Do what feels right. You’re having fun. In fact, you’re having a blast! Maybe you’ll decide to move to the pool and start talking with other couples. Maybe you’ll jump into a game of nude volleyball. Maybe you’ll go skinny dipping in the ocean. Maybe you’ll jump into the hot tub. Maybe you’ll go to the bar and try a mixed drink. You’ll be doing a lot of firsts today. Enjoy them. Or maybe you’ll spend your time together on the beach enjoying your time and never really mingle with the others. The choice is yours. It’s all okay and it’s up to you.

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The Spa at Couples San Souci

The biggest concern many couples shared about Couple Sans Souci’s nude area is that it isn’t clothing optional. It is nude. When you go to this area of the resort you must be with your spouse and you must take off all of your clothing. No topless. No gradually shed your suit. No exceptions. I know this can be very intimidating at first, but what you’ll find is that when everyone is nude, no one stands out. Honestly the only time I’m uncomfortable on a nude beach is when I’m around other people who are clothed. I’m exposed and they’re not. You’ll be surprised how quickly it feels natural to be without your clothing and around others who look the same. There is no judging. No staring.

Our other suggestion is not to wait till your last day to try the Au Natural beach. Countless couples mentioned they waited till their final day and then found they really enjoyed it and wished they tried it sooner. You’ll know within a few hours if you want to stay all day or go back to the other pools and beaches at San Souci. You’ll have a great time there too.

So there it is. We highly recommend Couples Resort Sans Souci as a wonderful nude experience for the couple trying it for the first time or for the experience nakationer who is looking to try a new resort.

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Sunset at the Au Natural Beach at Couples San Souci

What questions do you have? Been to Couples Sans Souci? What was your experience like? What other Jamaican resorts with nude areas would you recommend? We’d love to hear your thoughts, insights and questions. We can’t wait to go Jammin Naked in Jamaica!

 

 

 

 

The perfect body is the one you have. Not the one the media or brands push on you.

The Only Place to Escape Body Shaming: A Nude Beach

Image is from article on ET Online: http://www.etonline.com/fashion/153293_victoria_secret_slammed_for_perfect_body_campaign_topshop_accused_of_body_shaming/

The only place I know of to escape body shaming is a nude beach, resort or campground. Sounds crazy doesn’t it? The only place to escape the unrealistic and material ideas of the perfect body is a place where your total body is on display.  Let me explain.

My wife and I have been going on nude vacations for more than 20 years. We started on our honeymoon to Bora Bora. While there aren’t any recognized nude beaches in French Polynesia, topless sunbathing and swimming is the norm. My wife was in her mid-20s and thoroughly enjoyed swimming, sunning and walking the beach without her bikini top on. I certainly didn’t mind either. To me, she is beautiful and even more so when she isn’t wearing anything to cover up.

From there we have been to many nude beaches, resorts and B&B’s. We’ve learned that when we’re nude, we’re relaxed and comfortable. For me, I can’t think of a better place than when I’m drenched in sunshine and warm all over and my wife is next to me. It is an incredible feeling to go skinny dipping in the ocean or walking on the beach in the buff with the sunshine warming us all over. We’ve met many friendly couples. All naked and all as comfortable with themselves as we are.

We’re into the final countdown before we head into a much needed tropical vacation.  Almost on cue, the weather has turned wintry in the Midwest U.S. The temperatures are the only thing falling as fast as the snow. It’s time to travel to a tropical resort and get naked. I can’t wait to get to Jamaica and to get warm all over.

My wife just returned from the store. She was looking for a sundress she could wear from our room at the resort to the nude beach and pool. I’m told it is a quick walk. I was surprised she needed a new sundress and asked why she didn’t just go naked underneath or just wear her thong bikini under her dress. That’s not what she was worried about.

While I am convinced my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, clothed or naked, her biggest frustration with her body is her breasts. My wife is slender and lean. She wears a size 34 A cup bra. Her breasts, are not large and full and are dominated by her nipples. I say she looks great. She says she has the chest of a boy. While she likes being topless or naked on a nude beach or resort, she wants the extra padding that today’s bras provide while wearing her clothes. She doesn’t want other women or men to judge her.

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Real bodies are beautiful. Love your body and love yourself! Image from the blog: http://blog.spylight.com/lets-follow-lauren-conrads-lead-and-ban-body-shaming/

Many women have the same hang ups with their bodies as my wife. Too short. Too fat. Too tall. Too skinny. Breasts not big enough. Hips too big. Breasts too big. Butt not big enough. The quest for the perfect body is punctuated by the media and Hollywood celebrities every day who have had so much work, their bodies are more fiction than fact.

It’s odd to me that my wife can be totally naked and be at peace with her body but when she wears clothes, it’s all about hiding her perceived blemishes. I know why though. Since we started going to nude resorts and beaches, we’ve learned that when you’re nude, you’re totally open. And most of the other couples we’ve met while on the beach or at the resort are equally comfortable with themselves. (It’s funny. The only time I’m uncomfortable is when someone is wearing clothing and I’m naked.) That’s one of the reasons I like going to nude places. Real, honest people who care less about what you look like and are more interested in who you are and where you’re from.

Very few people know we go on nude vacations. The few that do all ask the same questions, “Isn’t everyone fat?” or “See any 1o’s there?” In all honestly, what we see is real people who enjoy being naked and enjoy their bodies just the way they are. In many cases, they are just like us. Wonderfully average. They’re from all walks of life. Some are older. Some are younger. Some are gay. Some are grandparents. Some are tattooed and pierced in places I didn’t know could have body art or jewelry. Others clearly have never been in a nude social environment and I’m sure by looking at their tan lines, they’ve never been naked outside before. I’ve also seen many courageous, nude people. Here’s what I mean:

  • The cute, older couple we met at Hidden Beach Resort who played in the pool like teenagers. She had had a double mastectomy.
  • A heavier couple who saw us skinny dipping on the beach in Tulum, Mexico. They didn’t stare. They smiled. When we saw them later on they were walking hand-in-hand and totally naked in the waves.
  • The very pregnant woman and her husband at Haulover Beach in Miami who looked like she was ready to go into labor atany minute. She was probably larger than she would ever be in her life but she was smiling, warm and comfortable. She was awesomely beautiful.
  • And the young college couple that wandered on Orient Beach in St. Maartin from a cruise ship. They looked out of place at first. He was naked and trying to make sure she was comfortable. She was very nervous and appeared to be comparing her body to every woman on the beach. I could hear him trying to encouraging her by telling her she was as beautiful as any woman  with or without her bathing suit. Throughout the day she slowly took off her bikini top and later her bottoms. By the end of the day, they were splashing in the waves and holding hands walking down the beach.

The next time you think of an open and safe place to be yourself with your spouse, consider a nude place. You’ll find that it isn’t about seeing other naked people or comparing your body to their’s. It’s about being comfortable in your own skin and accepting of others. It’s getting to know your own body and realizing just how beautiful it is. It’s practicing body acceptance for yourself and the people around you. Most importantly, it’s a judge free zone. And, spending time with your spouse naked is a great way to reconnect and relax. It really is a beautiful thing.

Here is an article from the website YesandYes.org about the authors trip to a nudist resort and how it helped her love her body. I love it. I think you will too. She hits on exactly the key points I’m making in my blog article. Enjoy.