New Orleans’ Inn Perfect for Couples Who Want Romance and Clothing Optional Pool

 

The clothing optional pool at the Green House Inn, New Orleans.

The clothing optional pool at the Green House Inn, New Orleans.

Most couples experience their first nude or clothing optional setting on vacation. It might be a beach like Orient Beach on St. Maarten or a nude inn like the Terra Cotta Inn located in Palm Springs. Both are wonderful experiences and perfect for the couple who is looking for a nude or clothing optional vacation.

So what if you and your spouse want to try a nude experience but not sure you’re ready to jump all in and be naked, 24/7? I highly recommend a more laid back, bare as much as you dare experience like the one my wife and I had at Green House Inn located in New Orleans.

I would highly recommend the Green House Inn to anyone going to New Orleans looking for a very comfortable B&B near all the main sites in the city. The rooms are very clean and quiet with amazingly, comfortable beds. The fact that their pool is beautiful, relaxing and clothing optional makes it even better.

The Green House is very close to the New Orleans Street Car line, which is a wonderful way to get around and see the city. We loved it.There is so much to see and do in New Orleans. It has wonderful restaurants, art galleries, museums, music and some nightlife too. There is a lot of great information online. I recommend starting your search at the official tourism website for the city of New Orleans. 

So why should you consider the Green House as a great place to try skinny dipping or nude sunbathing? Did I mention the pool? The Green House is NOT a nude B&B. You need to wear clothing when walking around the Inn and in the dining area. However, the pool and hot tub are a different story. Here you can be as comfortably clothed or unclothed as you want.

We specifically selected the Green House Inn for our trip because of its location and clothing optional pool. We stayed there in August and we quickly learned why no one goes to New Orleans in the summer. I have never sweat that much before in my life. Locals will tell you not to visit in the summer when the heat index is well over 100 degrees every day. That said, we spent a lot of time at the pool. The Inn was only a quarter full too which made it very quiet and private. Perfect for anyone who wants to slowly try social nudity.

When we arrived at the Inn, it was late morning and already very warm. We went to our room and my wife was disappointed when she saw another couple already laying out by the pool. She was wearing a bikini. He had on a bathing suit. Even after all of the clothing optional beaches and resorts we’ve been to over the years, my wife does not like to be the first or only woman naked by the pool. I completely understand this and told her to do what she felt comfortable. For me though, I picked the Inn because of its pool and I was planning to be naked as much as possible.

We found our spots beside the pool. The other couple smiled and nodded at us when they saw us. My wife took off her cover up to reveal her bikini while I moved chairs and tables around while wearing a robe. I was curious to see what would happen when I took the robe off.  While my wife got comfortable laying out by the pool and putting on suntan lotion, I found a floating raft and set it down in the pool. I threw my robe aside and got on the raft and laid back into the pool. For me, I love the feeling of being naked on a raft with warm water surrounding my body. To me, this is heaven. I felt great.

After a few minutes, my wife got comfortable and removed her bikini top. The other couple continued to lay in the sun, keeping to themselves. A little later my wife grabbed another raft and set it in the water next to me. She pulled down her bikini bottoms and sat on the raft next to me. She was comfortable too. For the rest of our stay, she never wore her bikini again.

A clothing optional pool like this one at the Green House Inn is a perfect place to try nude sunbathing and skinny dipping for the first time.

A clothing optional pool like this one at the Green House Inn is a perfect place to try nude sunbathing and skinny dipping for the first time.

This type of a setting is perfect for someone who has anxiety about being naked in public. It was private and relaxed. It was comfortable and even for my wife who has been taking off her bikini on beaches for year, it still takes her time to get comfortable and relaxed. I like this Inn because I’m sure even when it is full, there is space for everyone. We laid out nude, skinny dipped and sat in the pool every day we were there. We even used the outdoor showers on our last day before catching our flight home.

A few days later in the late afternoon, the couple we had seen when we arrived sat down on chairs next to us by the pool. We had not seen them since. We were totally naked. They wore swim suits. I’ll admit I am slightly uncomfortable in this situation because I feel so exposed.

They were a delightful couple. We talked about New Orleans, food, restaurants, museums and where we were from with them. Not once did they ever comment on our nudity nor did they take off their suits. Often times people are surprised at how oddly normal it can be to talk with someone who is naked. My advice, just look at their eyes. Before long, you won’t even notice they’re naked.

We had dinner plans and had to excuse ourselves to shower and get dress. That was the only time I joked about our nudity saying, “I guess we need to go inside and put on some clothes. You know what they say, ‘No shirt, no service.’” They laughed.

I’d like to believe that we inspired them. A short time later we came out to the pool, all dressed up to get some pictures. The couple we had been talking to was now sitting in the hot tub. He was sitting naked on the side of the tub while his wife enjoyed the warm water and bubbles. I could clearly see her glowing white breasts in the bubbling water. I thought she might be going topless until my wife pointed out that her bikini top and bottom were sitting on her chair. They were all in and enjoying it too. We smiled and waved to them and told them to have fun.

And that is why spending time together, by a pool or in a hot tub, nude with your spouse is so powerful. It’s why we do it. It’s a chance to connect and enjoy a truly shared experience. I don’t know if that other couple went skinny dipping later or just hung out in the hot tub. We never saw them again, but from their tan lines, I’m guessing they hadn’t done that before or at least not for a long time. I hope they enjoyed their time together at the Green House Inn as much as we did.

I should note that the Green House Inn is not a nude or clothing optional B&B. Only the pool and spa areas are clothing optional. There were only a handful of guests there when we were and aside from two 20-something sisters flashing their mother one afternoon, we were the only ones hanging out nude by the pool during the day. On vacation, we prefer to be around other nude people but there was plenty of space and everyone was very respectful of one another. It really was an interesting mix of people. At one point there were four of us laying on floating rafts in the pool. The two 20-something sisters in bikinis, an older woman in a one piece suit and my naked wife.

There are other clothing optional Inns and B&Bs in New Orleans. We loved the Green House Inn, but my research also turned up The Burgundy, which has a clothing optional hot tub and sun deck (no pool); The Dive Inn which has a clothing optional pool. We liked the sound of this Inn but found their pool was indoor. We wanted sun; The Country Club, which is a nude/clothing optional pool, spa, and restaurant. If we had had more time, we would have checked this one out. It appears to be more of a party atmosphere.

Again, we have not personally been to any of these other options but would like to check them out. If you have stayed or been to one of them, please let us know what you think.

If you’re headed to New Orleans and going with your wife/husband or girlfriend/boyfriend, check out the Green House Inn. It’s romantic and the perfect place to take off your clothes and relax with your spouse. We’ll be back!

NOTE: We did not receive any incentive from the Green House Inn to write this review. As of right now, they know nothing about it but I hope they’re pleased when/if they read it. The staff was incredibly friendly and knowledgable and we really enjoyed ourselves. I’ve stayed at a lot of hotels in New Orleans including several in the French Quarter. For me, the Green House Inn is the best by far. Tell us what you think.

 

 

Preparing to Get Naked: The Talk to Have Before Dropping Your Bikini Top or Swimsuit

Some nude beach can be the most beautiful places on Earth.

Some nude beach can be the most beautiful places on Earth.

Thank you to everyone who has visited our blog since October, 2013. My wife and I have taken a lot of nude vacations and getaways over the past 20 years and our goal for our blog is to remove any stigma or anxiety for couples interested in trying it and to be a good resource of what to expect.

While researching where to go for a clothing optional trip or first time nude sunbathing with your spouse experience can be fun, if you and your spouse haven’t discussed it first, you might be headed to couples counseling later. My opinion, the worst thing you can do is surprise your spouse by just showing up at a nude beach or clothing optional location and expect them to jump right in. Not a good idea at all. In fact, they may never want to go back. We saw a couple at a local nudist park and honestly thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. She and her partner had clearly not discussed it before and I felt really bad for her and was glad when after an hour he put his clothes back on (she never removed her clothing) and left. I can only imagine the conversation in the car later. He was wrong for putting her through that and not making sure she was comfortable first.

So what do you do first before finding a beach like Haulover in Miami or a bed and breakfast with a fantastic clothing optional pool like the Green House Inn in New Orleans? Sit down and talk. Explain why you want to try this with them. Talk about why you want to experience a clothing optional setting and any doubts, concerns or anxieties you and they might have. Discuss it all, including any sexual concerns like what happens if he gets an erection (turn over, it will go away).

A clothing optional pool like this one at the Green House Inn is a perfect place to try nude sunbathing and skinny dipping for the first time.

A clothing optional pool like this one at the Green House Inn is a perfect place to try nude sunbathing and skinny dipping for the first time.

Now, your spouse might be as excited for the experience as you are and be onboard immediately, in which case planning and reading forums about the place, setting, etc. can be a lot of fun. Often your first nude experience is a vacation and who doesn’t like to go on vacation?

Chances are though, even if your spouse does want to go, they are a bit nervous and have reservations. That’s completely understandable. I know my wife and I both did. So let’s discuss this and share our observations and thoughts on the topic.

First a little history. When I was growing up, I had gone skinny dipping a few times. I loved the feeling of swimming naked and being nude in the sun. It felt great to be warm all over (a feeling I still enjoy 25 year later). I did this a few times but always alone at a small lake near my home. I knew it was something I enjoyed and skinny dipping with others was something I wanted to try. My wife also had gone skinny dipping with friends (girls and boys) when she was in high school late at night one summer. She laughed telling me about it because she remembers it looked like she and all of her girlfriends weren’t actually naked but instead wearing glowing white bikinis from their tan lines.  Later in college, she took a trip to Europe and went to a topless beach but was too intimidated to shed her top with all of her friends around.  That was it for both of us. Neither one of us could be called a nudist (then or now).

Fast forward a few months before our wedding and honeymoon to Tahiti. I mentioned to my wife (then girlfriend) that she could go topless on our honeymoon and that I would like to try to find a place where we could go skinny dipping or even sunbathe nude. This is when we had our talk.

She told me she loved the idea of us finding a place to go skinny dipping with me but sunbathing nude or even skinny dipping with people around us made her uncomfortable because other people would see her.  I told her that I understood her concerns and that I didn’t know how I felt about other people seeing me or her naked but that my desire to see “how it felt” was important to me. I wanted to be naked, outside with her. While I didn’t know it at the time, this was a turning point for us.

Key point here is that we talked and discussed why we wanted to experience this and what fears/anxieties we had. Later, when we went to Tahiti, my wife was topless most of the time there. She loved it. And I loved watching her sunbathe, swim and walk without her bikini top on. I never realized that this could be a turn on to me, but it was.

I did some online research and was amazed at how many men asked for tips on how to get their wives to try topless or nude sunbathing.  Many women, like my wife said originally, were uncomfortable of people looking at them naked. A few women also said that they would like to try topless sunbathing but their husbands were super protective of other men looking at them while clothed, let alone naked.

Based on these very real concerns, here is our advice. Ask your wife or husband to give it a try and see if they can become comfortable. Plan to go to a clothing optional beach or bed and breakfast and let them know they can shed as much or as little as they want to with no pressure from you. Do not go to a nude resort where you are required to be naked. This can be very intimidating and I’ve seen it work out badly when trying to introduce social nudity to someone who is not ready for it.  The experience should be comfortable not scary. You might be a little anxious. That’s normal but not uncomfortable.

After a while, your wife may take off her bikini top or swimsuit or your husband might relax and realize that others there might give a pleasant nod but rarely will someone stare. It really doesn’t happen and if it does, you have ever right to put your clothes back on. The key here is being comfortable and doing things slowly.  Your wife may feel great sunbathing without her top on, but want to put it back on when she swims or walks on the beach. Your husband might be fine naked on his stomach but be completely uncomfortable sitting up or laying on this back. Do what feels right.  After a while it will feel very natural and right. And if it doesn’t, that’s okay too. This may not be a couples activity you can do.

Your wife or husband may decide they never want to be naked outside of your home but that they’re comfortable with you sunbathing nude. We’ve seen this at beaches many times. He will be naked but she is wearing a bikini or she is topless but wearing the smallest thong bikini bottom ever seen. Or she is naked but he is wearing his swimsuit. I’ve covered our experiences with first time social nudity in several of our blog posts already. I encourage you to read them again.

I do want to call attention to one point I saw mentioned several times in online forums on the topic of asking your husband/wife to go naked for the first time. There are people who believe if you truly love your spouse, that you would never want anyone to see them naked. That you are wrong for asking them to show their bodies to the world and perverted for being naked and wanting them to be naked with you. I saw comments like this in many forums. If your spouse shares this opinion, this may not be an option for you.

Please let us know what questions or concerns you have. I will tell you that our time together naked on a beach or at a resort has been wonderful. For us, it’s about being completely relaxed and comfortable. When we first went nude together many years ago, we were comfortable but not relaxed. It takes time. And it can be a stimulating experience for you both but not at the time. Later, in the privacy of your bedroom. Social nudity as we have described it is not overtly sexual. There is a right time and place and it’s not at a public beach or resort, but in privacy later.

Talk to your spouse and see what they think. Summer will be here before we know it.  Let us know your questions. We’ll do our best to share insights. Good luck.

 

Where to stay in South Beach to be near the Surf, Sea and Nude Sunbathing at Haulover Beach

 

Welcome to Haulover Beach. You WILL see nude sunbathers beyond this point.

Welcome to Haulover Beach. You WILL see nude sunbathers beyond this point.

You really can’t find a better or easier nude beach experience than Haulover Beach in North Miami. It is one of our favorite clothing optional beaches anywhere: Haulover Beach, you really can’t stay closer to Haulover than the Daddy O Hotel in Miami.

You can't ask for a closer or better hotel than the Daddy O Hotel if you plan on going to Haulover Beach.

You can’t ask for a closer or better hotel than the Daddy O Hotel if you plan on going to Haulover Beach.

It’s very clean, very fun, very hip and very reasonably priced and is less than 10 minutes from Haulover.  We have found room 222 to be our favorite. It’s roomy and private, but a long walk to the front of the hotel. The staff at the Daddy O are friendly and they have beach towels and chairs available for you to use. What more do you need?

You are about 20 minutes drive from the restaurants and clubs at South Beach. You will want to go to South Beach each night. It’s awesome and worth the trip. For lunch food, beer and other treats, go to the Publix in Surfside. Google it and you’ll find the location. They can make sandwiches for you. I recommend the Cuban. It’s easy to get to from the Daddy O Hotel in Bal Harbour and you’ll be on the beach enjoying the sun, surf and sand before you know it. Food, beverages and chairs and umbrellas are available for purchase/rent on Haulover Beach. Remember there are no glass bottles allowed at Haulover and the only thing you’ll want and need to wear is lots of sunscreen.

Unfortunately the food and art scene in Bal Harbour isn’t really happening unless you only want to shop at the Bal Harbour Shops, which does feature many high-end retailers. We highly recommend going to the Lincoln Road Mall or Espanola Way in South Beach. Great food, good shopping and incredible people watching. The only thing better is watching the people you will see nude at Haulover. It really is an interesting bunch. Not at Haulover, but well worth the visit, is the Effusion Gallery in South Beach.  It’s one of our favorites and perhaps one of yours too. Give it a look. It’s well worth the visit. Every time we’re in South Beach, we have one dinner on Ocean Drive in South Beach. Truthfully, it is rarely worth the money. The food is okay, the people watching great, but the price doesn’t justify it. That said, we eat on Ocean Drive every time hoping it will get better, but it doesn’t. Espanola Way and Lincoln Road Mall are the places to go. Trust us.

Enjoy nude sunbathing and skinny dipping at Haulover beach and the restaurants and people at Espanola Way and Lincoln Park Mall. You’ll have a great trip. Just don’t get sunburned. Tell us what you think!

Hidden Beach Resort Palapas

Hidden Beach Resort Palapas

It’s New Year’s Day and cold and snowy in the Midwest US and I’m dreaming of the sun, sand and surf of Mexico. Specifically the Riviera Maya area. I am dreaming of Hidden Beach Resort (HBR) next to the El Dorado Seaside Suites Resort just south of Playa del Carmen.  HBR wasn’t the first nude resort my wife and I went to but it’s our favorite and one of the most wonderful experiences we have ever had together nude ever.

Before I get into what makes a vacation to HBR so special, let me first tell you why a nude vacation with your spouse is a great experience for the two of you. Recently we revealed to friends of ours that we enjoyed taking nude vacations. While they were surprised to hear how and where we like to vacation, their biggest question was what do you do at a nude resort other than lay out in the sun? We replied, the question is what don’t you do?

The Treasure you Find Walking on the Beach... nude.

The Treasure you Find Walking on the Beach… nude.

You do everything you would do normally at an all inclusive resort except you don’t wear any clothing. That’s it. Sounds too simple right? But here is why we believe time together at a nude resort is so valuable for a busy couple like us. Who doesn’t want to spend more time with their partner naked? Chances are you and your spouse aren’t spending as much time together nude as you would like and I’m not talking about sex or intimacy either. Think about it.

The shoreline at Hidden Beach Resort

The shoreline at Hidden Beach Resort

To me, my wife is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. We sleep together nude each night. I might see her getting into the shower in the morning or drying her hair before she puts on her clothes. Sometimes I get to sneak a peak at her when she is changing into her workout gear before going to the gym. When we are naked, usually the lights are off or we’re moving quickly to get dressed to take care of the kids or go to work. She is beautiful but I rarely see her naked and it’s almost never long enough to really enjoy. My guess is that I see my wife naked less than 15-20 minutes a day. For us, that’s not enough. Sound familiar to you?

This is why the atmosphere at a nude resort is perfect for a couple like us. It’s laid back, relaxed and you don’t have to worry about the kids walking in on you naked. Everyone you meet at a nude resort is nude just like you or they work for the resort. The staff is always professional and doesn’t seem to even notice or care if you’re walking around nude, topless, shorts, t-shirt, etc.

So why go to a nude resort? I’ll share more about HBR in a later post, but here is our average day at HBR or any other nude resort: We wake up (nude). We walk the beach before breakfast (nude). We go to breakfast (my wife wears a wrap and is usually topless while I’m nude). We grab towels and find the perfect chairs on the beach (nude). We sit, talk, read, sleep while enjoying the sun and the surf (nude). When it gets too warm we jump into the pool or wade in the ocean (nude). When the bar opens, we grab drinks and bring them back to our chairs (nude). We get lunch by the pool (nude). We lay in rafts in the pool (nude). We talk with other HBR guests about what we’re doing tonight (nude, us and them). In the afternoon sun, we fall asleep in palapas on the beach (nude). We jump into the hot tub in the late afternoon and talk with other couples about where they’re from and what they’re doing tonight (nude). Finally we go to our room and shower and put on casual clothes to go to dinner at one of five restaurants at the El Dorado. It’s usually around 7 and it’s the first time we’ve worn clothing all day. We enjoy a great dinner. Relax at one of the El Dorado’s bars and enjoy talking with other couples. And then around 11 or so we head back to HBR, go to our room and shed all of our clothing and walk to the hot tub and relax under the night sky (nude again).  Next we either go to our room to enjoy some intimate moments or grab a bunch of towels and fall asleep in each other’s arms in a beach palapa listening to the waves and the wind (nude). Eventually we head to bed and then get up the next morning and do it all over again. Sometimes we stay at HBR for dinner (nude) and never go to the El Dorado. Last visit to HBR, my wife and I didn’t put on any clothing for two straight days. It was wonderful. Compare 48 hours naked together vs. 30 minutes in two days.

After sharing all of this, our friends asked us if we ever felt embarrassed walking around naked or if it was at all sexual. I can honestly say the only time I have ever felt uncomfortable at a nude resort is when I’m naked and the people around me aren’t. This really doesn’t happen and most people who are clothed are just arriving. You usually see them naked within 15 minutes of their arrival.

Regarding the atmosphere being sexually charged, I would say it is but it isn’t. At first you feel like you’re breaking a rule by walking around naked. If this is your first time, it feels right but so wrong at the same time. Sure there are attractive people around you but no one is gawking, staring or making comments. I’m sure some men could get physically excited when experiencing this but, put a towel in your lap or flip over until the feeling subsides. It has never happened to me but everyone is different. That said, when you spend so much time with your spouse naked and with others naked all around you, when you finally get alone time, it’s fantastic.

We always enjoy our time together at HBR. It often feels like you’re teasing each other all day and when you finally alone in your room, it’s wonderful. This is in the privacy of your  room and not in the open, which is never permitted at HBR or most other nude resorts.

For me, a nude resort is for you and your spouse. You can be as private as you want to be or as social. We have met some great couples at HBR and other nude resorts. Several I have done business with later. We exchange holiday notes with other couples we’ve met. When you met another couple and they’re completely naked, there is very little to hide about yourself. That’s a good thing.  During our stays at HBR we’ve met:

  • A couple who saw me taking pictures of my wife during our morning walk on the beach. While taking pictures of us for our private album, they mentioned that their kids and grandchildren would never believe that they went to a nude resort twice a year. I should say that most people we have met are 40+ with many 55+. Where are the young people?
  • Another couple who is probably one of the neatest people we’ve ever met. We’ve done business together several times since and continue to talk about other great places to go on nude vacations.
  • A woman and her husband who had had a double mastectomy. To this day, I am impressed with her willingness not to let her surgery prevent her from enjoying herself and her time with her husband nude.
  • A gay couple from Palm Springs who are two of the funniest guys we have ever met while traveling.
  • A couple that we met at Haulover Beach years ago and ran into HBR on our last visit. They and we couldn’t believe we recognized each other years later. We had fun catching up with them.
  • And finally, a 20-something honeymooning couple from Buffalo we saw each night at a bar at the El Dorado Resort who couldn’t figure out why they never saw us on the beach during the day. We finally told them we were staying next door at HBR. His response, “Do you mean you’re nudists? Do you sit around naked all day over there?”  I told him we weren’t nudists but yes, we did sit around naked all day. I invited them to join us. I wasn’t surprised when they didn’t show the next day but I hope they try a nude resort or beach sometime soon in their relationship.

I should note that no one has ever hit on us and asked us to join them later. Again, that’s not what we’re into or looking for when we vacation. We’ll share more with you about HBR and some of the other nude resorts we’ve gone to in the past 15 years. Also we have never received any money from a nude resort such as HBR for this blog post.

Have questions? Let us know. We’re here to help you enjoy your trip. Your nude resort vacation will be the only trip you ever take with just carry on luggage.

Best Nude Beach on Kauai is no Secret… Secret Beach Shouldn’t be Missed

When my wife and I first visited Kauai, we were looking for a tropical island getaway. We wanted to go somewhere we had never gone before (ruling out Mexico) and for this trip, we wanted to find and enjoy all of the nature and beauty of Kauai without our clothes. It was the first trip we had taken specifically to find and enjoy a nude beach.

Sure, we did all of the tourist activities too and there is a lot to do here. If you’re headed to Kauai you must visit Waimea Canyon aka the Grand Canyon of the Pacific; Wailua Falls (the water fall from the TV show Fantasy Island); and the incredible Napali Coast, which can be seen via boat or by hiking. YOu can fill a week with amazing sites and activities on Kauai. Researching this blog is making me want to go back and visit sooner rather than later.

You might not realize it but you’ve probably already seen Kauai’s beaches, rain forests and mountains in many of Hollywood’s biggest movies like Jurassic Park, Raiders of the Lost Ark and South Pacific to name a few.

Honestly, Kauai is well worth the trip for all the reasons I have mentioned, but with a nude beach like Secret Beach (also know as Kauapea Beach), the island is the perfect place for a couple’s first clothing optional experience. It is laid back, not crowded and a natural wonder that can not be enjoyed simply by visiting for 15 minutes. You need to stay for the day.

Secret Beach is just west of Kilauea Point Lighthouse, which is another landmark to visit while on Kauai. Secret Beach has it all. The best clothing optional beaches are hard to get to (they require a walk usually down a very steep hill) and are immediately memorable as soon as you walk on the beach. I’m not taking about naked bodies. Secret Beach is memorable because it is cut right out of the cliffs and features beautiful soft sand with black lava rocks breaking through the sand and all with tropical rainforest behind it. In the summer, tidal pools can be found near the east side of the beach while in winter, the waves are huge and crash into the shore with great force. Depending on the weather there are several natural waterfalls on the beach too.

We visited in late January/early February. The view from the beach is incredibly beautiful, especially in the winter months when whales are birthing their calves. We saw whales breeching only 200-300 yards off the beach. Am I painting a pretty amazing picture here? It gets better.

So why is Secret Beach perfect for a couple looking for their first nude beach experience? First off, it’s a big beach with plenty of space for you to find your own piece of paradise. You won’t be on top of one another like Haulover beach in Miami, which is another great nude beach but a polar opposite to Secret Beach.

Second, it’s mainly tourists who visit the beach. Most, but not all, are there as first time nudists or others who have visited here before. When you’re all trying something for the first time, it’s a lot less intimidating. You won’t find many gawkers running around which can be very intimidating for the first time nudist. It’s laid back, relaxing and let’s you and your spouse get started at your own pace. On it’s busiest day, there was 30 people on the beach. It was winter so I’m expecting it to be more crowded in the summer months, but it really is a great laid back setting.

Third, and forgive me if I sound a little too granola here, but for me, this is the perfect beach setting best enjoyed nude. Imagine one of the most beautiful beaches ever, your spouse is next to you. You’re both relaxed and comfortable. You’re listening to the waves crash on the shore. You’re laying comfortably on the beach with black lava boulders near by and beautiful flowers and lush tropical plants going up the cliff behind you.  She looks beautiful (Handsome if it’s your husband:). You’re both naked as the day you were born and you couldn’t be happier. You don’t want to go because it’s a total sensory experience between the smell of the ocean, warmth of the sun, the crash of the waves and the paradise around you.  This is why this is the perfect beach to visit, especially if you want to experience a nude beach for the first time. It should be on your list.

So what should you be prepared for other than sunscreen? Water and food come to mind immediately. This beach is not easy to get to and you’ll want to stay all day. Bring food and water so you don’t have to leave early. Also, and this is important, if you bring it to the beach, be sure to take it away. Don’t litter or leave your garbage. There are no facilities here, including a bathroom.

I should note during our week long stay here we never went swimming at Secret Beach. The winter surf is very dangerous here and while beautiful, this is a very deadly beach with many drownings. Any online references to Secret Beach note how dangerous the surf is even during the summer months. When we visited, the waves were huge as in way bigger than I am tall. There was no way I was going into the water.  Please be careful. There is no life guard here.

And what about Hawaii’s nudity laws? Technically you must wear a bathing suit at all times. Secret Beach is traditionally a clothing optional beach meaning it is shared by those wanting an all over tan and those wanting tan lines. I saw many references to the east end of the beach being nude. Share the beach and keep your eyes open for any reasons to put your suit back on, such as a police officer. I haven’t heard of any tickets being written lately but it has happened in the past.

There are many other nude beaches on Kauai and yes we did go to a few but none were the same experience as Secret Beach. I would go back in heartbeat. It was that amazing. If you’re interested in learning more about Secret Beach, I highly recommend visiting the Kauai Beach Scoop Website. It has great photography and video information for anyone wanting to plan a visit. The photography really is amazing. Enjoy.

Topless in Tahiti? Baring it all in Bora Bora? Yes, but it’s not as easy as you might think.

So does your wife want to go topless in Tahiti? Or do you both want to sunbath in the buff in Bora Bora? I’m guessing yes, based on reviewing the web analytics on our blog. Going topless or nude in Tahiti has been the main search that has brought people to read our blog.

So here’s what I can tell you. Women can go topless in French Polynesia (Tahiti, Bora Bora, Moorea, and 300 other smaller islands), unless a resort prohibits it like the St. Regis Bora Bora. My wife’s first topless experience was on our honeymoon in Tahiti and it couldn’t have been better. Read our blog post to learn more.

But what if you want to bare all in French Polynesia? When we were there 15+ years ago, the Sofitel Resort in Bora Bora had a private island for nude sunbathing. Unfortunately, they built a private resort on the island and it’s no longer an option for clothing optional travel.

So how can you be naked in Bora Bora or the other French Polynesian islands? Here is what I found.

1. Ask someone to take you by boat to an uninhabited motu aka island. This is probably your best option. Just make sure no one is there because while French Polynesian’s are comfortable with women being topless, male or female nudity is a big no-no. Read our blog to learn more about how we found that out. We still laugh about it.

2. If you have the money and I do mean money at $600+ per night, the overwater bungalows are amazing. They offer an incredible view, are super romantic and create an unforgettable experience. During my research on finding clothing optional options in French Polynesia, several people mentioned  skinny dipping from their private overwater bungalows and sunbathing nude from them if they could do it privately.  Again, this will depend on the resort, but this could be a good option.

3. Look for a private, sponsored trip by a tour company that caters to those of us who like to travel with just a carry on. Several tour companies offer nude cruises and trips to French Polynesia. Do a Google search to learn more.

4. Finally and this will take some work, try finding your own private beach. French Polynesia is a nation of islands… hundreds of them. Finding your own little piece of paradise shouldn’t be to difficult, but be careful to not offend the locals.

I hope this information helps. French Polynesia and specifically Bora Bora are amazing places. My wife and I highly recommend vacationing here. It is the perfect honeymoon location too. And as I mentioned before, it is a great place for women to go topless for the first time.

If you know of a clothing optional resort in French Polynesia or have other suggestions on where to go, please share them here. And if you happen to own a resort in French Polynesia and want to make a lot of money, consider offering a clothing optional option for guests.  From what I can tell, there is a big demand and no viable options right now.

Planning a trip to Tahiti and have questions or better yet, know of the perfect place to go skinny dipping or lay out nude while you’re there and want to share?  Let us know.

What to Expect on Your First Trip to a Clothing Optional Beach

The quiet time on a beach when the sun is just rising. Hidden Beach Resort, Mexico.

The quiet time on a beach when the sun is just rising. Hidden Beach Resort, Mexico.

So what should you expect on your first trip to a nude or clothing optional beach? Well, it is a trip to the beach and that’s always fun right? But let’s be honest, you’ll be a little uncomfortable at first but that’s natural when you do anything for the first time. After going to many nude beaches with my wife, here our are observations of most couples when they go to a nude beach for the very first time.

They usually are overdressed wearing tennis shoes, bathing suits, sarong or other cover up, hat, and t-shirts, while carrying towels and beach bags. While this may sound normal to people going to a non-nude beach, most nude beach veterans actually bring and wear very little. Most wear as little as possible and slip out of it as soon as they can. My wife has even stopped bringing a bikini and often will wear a skirt and t-shirt with nothing on underneath. For me, it’s a pair of soccer shorts and a t-shirt. Less to carry and easier to put on and take off as needed.

Next if the new couple isn’t wearing sunglasses, you’ll actually see their eye bug out looking down the beach at all of the naked bodies. Yup, you’re not in Kansas any more, but while it will be foreign and a little uncomfortable, that will pass. You’ll see a lot of “firsts’ on your visit.

For one, all bodies are not “10s.” You’ll see a lot of different body types. Tall, short, fat, skinny, young and old. Secondly, if you thought people had obvious tattoos with clothes on, you should see what they have without. The same is true of piercings. I had no idea what could be pierced until I went to a nude beach. Painful describes a lot of it, but I don’t judge. Finally, considering all of the cures for baldness out there, ironically many people at a nude beach are shaved down there. Not everyone but a lot of people keep their pubic areas very trim. It’s all personal choice and expression.

What you should learn from this is that regardless of how many tattoos or piercings you do or don’t have, pubic hair style or shaved, penis length or boob size, skinny or fat, you won’t stand out at all because everyone is different and when it’s all on display, most people really don’t notice or care. The sooner you’re comfortable with your and your spouse’s body, the more enjoyable the experience. That’s not to say that people won’t be watching you, especially when you first arrive but they watch because it’s funny. Here’s what I mean.

Next our first time couple generally wanders around on the beach for five to 15 minutes trying to find the perfect spot that’s not too close to everyone, but not too far away from everyone and certainly not surrounded by too many single guys. They’ll check one spot and then another and the entire time trying hard not to make eye contact with any of the naked people sitting, walking and talking around them.

For future reference, look for groups of people who appear to be regulars on the beach. Don’t go for the party crowd but look for other couples grouped together. How do you know they’re regulars? No tan lines is an obvious giveaway. They’ll probably give you space but will be friendly and answer any questions or loan you a bottle opener if you need one. You’ll find that nude beaches have some of the friendliest and most social people you’ll ever meet, and the ones you really want to meet will respect you and your spouse while you’re getting used to the beach.

Next, when the new couple finally finds a spot, they’ll layout their towels and gradually take off their shirts and shorts, while strategically placing bags, coolers and other items around them. My suggestion, block the wind because nothing is worse than being pelted with sand.

When the couple finally finds their place on the beach and sits down they realize the moment has arrived. They look like gophers with their heads darting around to see who is watching them or if anyone is staring. You can see the stress in their eyes and on their faces.

Now one of two things happens, either he stands up while she sits down on a towel and he quickly pulls down this bathing suit and sets it aside. This is the let it all hang out method and it’s the fastest and easiest way to get started because you’ll quickly realize that as soon as you take your suit off, no one is really watching or interested. I have never seen a woman do this first. It’s always the man who does this while she turns multiple shades of red.

Or and this is more common, the couple sits on their towels and begin playing a game of truth or dare. They stare at everyone around them and then at each other to decide who will take off their bathing suit first. You can almost hear them debating and you can see their nervousness. From here it’s a toss up on who will shed their clothes first, but if he does first, he immediately turns over on to his stomach. If she does, she’ll usually take off her bikini top slowly and then looks around to see if anyone is watching. Then she’ll either sit topless for awhile or she’ll remove her bikini bottoms and then turn over onto her stomach too.

So what happens next? Once they both start breathing again and realize  there aren’t any spotlights shining on them, they relax and calm down. Before long they’re flipping over and laying on their backs or starting to people watch and trust me there are interesting people on a nude beach.

Usually within a few hours, they’ll be running down to the water and swimming or walking down the beach in the surf.  It’s trying everything you love to do on a beach, except naked. It’s this moment when the shock and anxiety wear off and you sit with your spouse and you’re warm all over enjoying a day at the beach and you question why this was such a big thing in your mind.

What I just shared with you is what we’ve seen from many trips to the beach over the past 15 years. That first trip to a nude beach should be special. Remember, it will only be our first time once so plan to relax and enjoy it. You’ll probably wish you had done this sooner.

So what can go wrong on your first trip to a nude beach? Well first, remember to cover up and I do mean sunblock. When parts of your body that have never been kissed by the sun are, it leaves a lasting impression such as the worst sun burn you’ve ever had. And when couples hit the euphoria why haven’t I done this before stage, the last thing they’re thinking about is sunblock. Please use it and lots of it.

Second, if I’m a guy and I get excited what do I do? First off, this has happened to me once and that was only because I was reading a book that had a rather intense sex scene in it (Grisham book). I was shocked when I realized I was becoming physically excited so I flipped over onto my stomach and kept reading till it was gone. If this does happen, take a minute to flip over and relax. This too shall pass.

Finally, and this does happen, what do I do when lots of gawking men sit uncomfortably close to my wife and our towels? The best nude beaches are public beaches and you will see guys with no shame who wander around (usually clothed) gawking and every woman on the beach. Sometimes they sit down or position themselves in a rather uncomfortable angle for maximum viewing.

Remember, this is your day in the sun and ask them to move. If they don’t, talk to a life guard. Don’t let them ruin your day at the beach. This is why I recommend sitting near regulars and/or other couples. These gawkers tend to stay away from the regulars or large groups because they are often well known by these people and are afraid to get too close.

We’ll cover in future posts my favorite public nude beaches but this is all you really need to know to get started. What was your first visit like? Or are you planning your first visit right now? Let us know what questions you have. My favorite nude beach is Haulover in Miami. It’s a wonderful beach with great sand, waves and only minutes from the night life, shopping and restaurants of South Beach. On the Haulover website, they have a section on what to expect on your first visit and nude beach etiquette. It’s very well done. More to come on that later too!

Questions, thoughts, concerns? Let us know. Happy to provide insights and reviews.